In this universe everything, whether animate or inanimate, is depend on many other things for their survival. Hence dependency is a factor which we inherited from our ancestors, which in turn has the history from the time of creation. But dependency at another level, takes away our freedom and becomes the cause of bondage and hence the cause of our suffering. Hence it may be helpful to understand the term Dependency towards our quest of having a world of our choice.
At one level we depend on our parents, our spouse, our children, our neighbors, our society, etc for fulfilling our day-to-day needs. Without such dependency we cannot have a social life. At another level, we depend on the life of many other living organisms for our basic needs like food (irrespective of vegetarian or not), shelter and basic survival. Without the sacrifice of lives of many other living organisms, we cannot even survive for a day. At a much subtler level, even the inanimate objects depend on other objects for their existence. This is true for sub atomic objects to the cosmic objects.
There is another level of dependency which we create ourselves out of ignorance, which then becomes source of our sufferings. This is the psychological dependency, which we create with our relationships, with our possessions and with our desires. Let us analyze the mechanism of psychological dependency and its role in our life. Once we have the understanding we will be able to decide its role and its need in our lives.
For our needs we depend on two set of people, with one set, we are not emotionally related where as with another set we are emotionally related also. The first set is like grocery agent, news paper agent, vehicle mechanic and so on. In this case, they depend on our need of their services and we depend on their services and there is no emotional factor attached with this dependency on either side. Here if one grocery vendor is not servicing us we can get another one. Hence we never look for the security of service with one particular vendor and hence there is no emotional factor, and hence no psychological dependency. Basically, dependency is need based. The above dependencies are physical need based and we cannot avoid those dependencies, and there are no problems for us due to those dependencies.
The other set is our parents, spouse, children, friends, and similar relationships. There are certain levels of real needs from these relationships. We do not stop our dependency with these relationships at real, required level, but elevate it to emotional level. This is due to the fact that we are in need of emotional content from these relationships. On the other hand, we are emotionally void and hence we tend to fill that emotional void by emotional content from our relationships. The general understanding of us is that without that emotional factor towards the relationships, what is social life and why do we need a social set up like family? Yes, we need emotional factor towards our relationships and with the society, but that should be due to our emotional fullness and not due to our emotional emptiness. If the emotional factor of our relationship is not due to emotional emptiness, then there is no need for emotional dependency for us and there is no suffering for us due to our dependency with our relationships. In such case, there is no question of this discussion at all. But the fact is that we are completely void with respect to our emotions. What we call as emotion within us is just the need of us arising out of this emotional emptiness and due to the projection of our mind but we perceive it as the emotional content we are providing to our relationships due to our ignorance.
There is a third level of dependency in which we depend on many of our material possessions. Out of the possessiveness we build around those possessions, we become emotionally dependent on these possessions. Off late we have reached a level in which our emotional dependency towards these possessions are gone beyond a tolerable limit. In case we lose any of those possessions, we will be down psychologically. This is the real problem – the psychological falling which is the result of emotional dependency. Of course, the loss of certain possession is definitely a loss with respect to our ability to do certain function because the execution of that function depends on the possession. But if it reaches a level where the loss of that possession pull us down psychologically, then something wrong in the type of dependency we have with that possession.
If our emotional factor towards our relationships and possessions arises due to our fullness, then there will not be any suffering for us due to that emotional factor. In the sense, irrespective of the reaction of that relationship towards as, our emotional content flows towards that relationship and due to our emotional completeness, we do not need any emotional factor from that relationship; if at all that relationship is unable to give. If we are emotionally empty, how can we approach the relationships with the emotional factor? We can only expect the emotional content from our relationships, while (actually) nothing to give back. When every one of us in the society is emotionally void, how can our relationships approach us with the (actual) emotional content which we need? Cannot be! Hence the real problem is that every one of us is emotionally void and trying to fill that void by depending on others. Unfortunately all our relationships are at the same level and our emotional need will never be fulfilled. The end result is suffering to us and our relationships.
The only way out is to understand this fact. Once we understand the cause of emotional dependency, we will be free from it; simultaneously we will be emotionally complete by ourselves. These are mere psychological factors and basically evolved due to the projection of our mind. It is not a real dependency. That is the reason, as soon as we understand these deficiencies, it will be filled immediately. In other words the emptiness is due to our ignorance of the facts. Once we understand the facts, our ignorance will be wiped out instantaneously and hence we will be free from illusions. This freedom gives us the fullness and it is an instantaneous change. As soon as we understand the fact, the suffering will be ended because it is a mere psychological factor.
The real problem is to bring in the necessary understanding. As we discussed multiple times, our conditioning is the blocking stone on the path of understanding. Unless we are free from the conditioning, which is result of inheritance, we will not be able to wipe out our ignorance and hence illusions. Until the time we live illusionary life, without looking into the facts and logic of existence, we are not going to be free from our conditioning and hence our suffering. Until the time we are free from suffering, we can look nothing, but a problematic world. At this level, naturally we would like to change the world from what it is. We ourselves are not free from suffering, how can we end the suffering of world?
Friday, April 24, 2009
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Responsibility
We are discussing about the change we want to have in the world as we are seeing a complete chaos in the world around us. Based on the discussion so far, every one of us sees a different world. The world I am seeing is entirely different form the world you are seeing. No two persons will see the same world. The reason is that the world we see is the projection of our mind and no two persons think alike and hence the world of no two persons will be alike.
This implies that if we are seeing complete chaos in the world, essentially our mind is in complete chaos. During the discussion so far, we have seen some of the reasons for such a chaotic mind. So far we were discussing about constructed qualities which we need to wipe out from ourselves to get ourselves free. Responsibility is one action which we have to adapt. The action with responsibility will help us to get away with those constructed qualities. Responsibility is stated as action rather than a quality because we never identify ourselves with it. Qualities are some thing with which we are attached and hence identified with. Responsibility is an action out of us.
If we look deep into our day-to-day life, we take responsibility for ourselves of all our successes and with things whichever we are happy with in our life. But if there is some problem in life, we rarely take responsibility for that problem; we rarely recognize the problem is due to some of our actions for which we are responsible. We readily find someone else to pass the responsibility for our problems. We also fail to recognize the quality of life we are living is entirely based on our actions. The actions might have been stimulated by somebody else or something else. But the actions were performed by us with our complete knowledge. Hence we are completely responsible for what we are today, whether we are happy or not happy with our present state. Of course, we are thankful to those stimulating environment- be it our parents, or well wishers or whoever it be.
In most of the cases, we shift the responsibility of our present state to somebody else and if we could not get those somebody else, it is very easy to shift that responsibility to God or Cosmic power; as nobody understand what it really mean and God never questions us for this action, and hence we are not answerable to anybody for shifting the responsibility of our failures and problems towards God. But, by doing this, we lose our freedom. We enter in a state of fear, which will be the breeding point for all our constructed qualities and hence all our problems.
When we take responsibility of our action means, we will be completely aware of our actions. We will be also aware that the result for the action is not only depends on our action, but many external situations also. As we completely take the responsibility of our actions and hence aware of the external conditions, we respond to all these external situations and now we are in a position to accept the outcome of our action, whatever it may be. The key point here is that taking responsibility of our action drastically improves our awareness and once we are aware, the less will be the fear and hence less will be the possibility of creating other constructed qualities out of our action.
When we shift the responsibility of our actions to somebody else, we are choosing the escape route, which in turn make our awareness to shrink. The less our awareness, the more will be chances of getting into fear. Once we have fear there is no escape from suffering.
If we would like to change the world around us, we should be capable of assuming responsibility for all of our action. If we are not able to take responsibility of our actions, yet want to change the world from ‘what it is’ to ‘what should be’, then we are creating more problems for ourselves and for the world. In such case, it is better to live our own life in our own way, instead of worrying about the world, as it has no meaning for those who are not ready to take the responsibility for their own actions!
This implies that if we are seeing complete chaos in the world, essentially our mind is in complete chaos. During the discussion so far, we have seen some of the reasons for such a chaotic mind. So far we were discussing about constructed qualities which we need to wipe out from ourselves to get ourselves free. Responsibility is one action which we have to adapt. The action with responsibility will help us to get away with those constructed qualities. Responsibility is stated as action rather than a quality because we never identify ourselves with it. Qualities are some thing with which we are attached and hence identified with. Responsibility is an action out of us.
If we look deep into our day-to-day life, we take responsibility for ourselves of all our successes and with things whichever we are happy with in our life. But if there is some problem in life, we rarely take responsibility for that problem; we rarely recognize the problem is due to some of our actions for which we are responsible. We readily find someone else to pass the responsibility for our problems. We also fail to recognize the quality of life we are living is entirely based on our actions. The actions might have been stimulated by somebody else or something else. But the actions were performed by us with our complete knowledge. Hence we are completely responsible for what we are today, whether we are happy or not happy with our present state. Of course, we are thankful to those stimulating environment- be it our parents, or well wishers or whoever it be.
In most of the cases, we shift the responsibility of our present state to somebody else and if we could not get those somebody else, it is very easy to shift that responsibility to God or Cosmic power; as nobody understand what it really mean and God never questions us for this action, and hence we are not answerable to anybody for shifting the responsibility of our failures and problems towards God. But, by doing this, we lose our freedom. We enter in a state of fear, which will be the breeding point for all our constructed qualities and hence all our problems.
When we take responsibility of our action means, we will be completely aware of our actions. We will be also aware that the result for the action is not only depends on our action, but many external situations also. As we completely take the responsibility of our actions and hence aware of the external conditions, we respond to all these external situations and now we are in a position to accept the outcome of our action, whatever it may be. The key point here is that taking responsibility of our action drastically improves our awareness and once we are aware, the less will be the fear and hence less will be the possibility of creating other constructed qualities out of our action.
When we shift the responsibility of our actions to somebody else, we are choosing the escape route, which in turn make our awareness to shrink. The less our awareness, the more will be chances of getting into fear. Once we have fear there is no escape from suffering.
If we would like to change the world around us, we should be capable of assuming responsibility for all of our action. If we are not able to take responsibility of our actions, yet want to change the world from ‘what it is’ to ‘what should be’, then we are creating more problems for ourselves and for the world. In such case, it is better to live our own life in our own way, instead of worrying about the world, as it has no meaning for those who are not ready to take the responsibility for their own actions!
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Anger
Anger is one of the constructed qualities, which affect our inner freedom. Until the time we have the quality anger, we can’t have inner freedom. Unlike qualities like attachment and possessiveness which affect us just psychologically, anger affect us psychologically as well as physiologically. When we are in anger (Or just after recognizing anger within us), the blood pressure increases enormously and certain acidic substances are added into our system. Both of these physical effects of anger are harmful to our body.
Let us analyze the source of anger and this knowledge may be helpful, if we wish to avoid anger within us and hence we will be approaching psychological freedom and eliminating unnecessary blood pressure spikes and unnecessary addition of acidic substances in our physiological system. None of us really want these side effects of anger, and hence anger also. However we are unable to control anger when it arises and we are aware of our anger only after it is over. This may be due to our lack of understanding of the mechanism of anger and its source.
Whenever the projection of our mind is challenged, our mind expresses the reaction as anger. The intensity of anger depends on the intensity of challenge. When we are caught in psychological bondage, the mind always project everything it sees, make it as an image and store it back in the memory. Depend on the usage of this image for our survival, the mind seeks security for the projected image, and this will be breeding point of attachment and possessiveness. Hence the intensity of our anger depends on how far we are attached with the image projected by the mind or how far the mind seeks security of that image.
We have built an image about us within our mind, which is basically what we refer as ourselves. This includes images like I am this religion; I am this caste; I am the native of this state; I am this national; I am the follower of this leader; I am the follower of this Guru, and such endless I am…. The more the number of such identifications we have about ourselves, the possibility of bondage is more and hence the frequency and intensity of our anger. The less the identification we have about ourselves, the less will be the frequency and intensity of the anger. This leads to the conclusion that we will be nearing psychological freedom as fast as we eliminate entities with which we are identified. Once there is no more identification about ourselves within us, the “I centeredness” or “Me” or “Self” cease to exist and that will be the ultimate freedom.
To reach such a state, we need not forgo the relationships in this world; need not leave behind any possessions we have; do not cease the enjoyment the existence provides to us and need not isolate ourselves from the society and culture. What we just need is an understanding of existence. And a change within us to live synchronized with the existence. Nothing more is demanded from us to have a realized, joyful life.
Let us go some more details of relation between anger and our self identifications. Let us assume we belong to the religion “A”. This means, we have strong belief about the teaching of religion “A” due to constant and prolonged insistence of the principles and value system of religion “A” within us. We are conditioned such a way that, we started feeling a great sense of fulfillment and pride with the image of being belonging to that religion. This will give a sense of pride when we say I am the follower of religion “A” and we go to such a stage that we identify ourselves as I am an “A”ian. Now we are deeply identified with the religion “A”. Now one person belong to religion “B” and as deeply attached with that religion as we are attached with “A” comes to us and question the validity of certain principles of religion “A”, we do not need any time to reach the peak of anger. The less our identification with religion “A” the more we see the validity/invalidity of the challenge and have the capability of logical reaction. If we are not at all identified ourselves with religion “A”, any question about the validity of religion “A” is not at all a challenge to us, and there is no need for us to react for that challenge, except showing logical reaction, if we wish to do so. When we do not identify ourselves with any of the religions from A to Z, none can make us anger by challenging with respect to religion. This does not mean that we should not follow any religion or belief system. We can follow any religion or any belief system of our choice. But we should also take the choice of not being identified with the religion or belief system. It may be a bit difficult to digest this argument. But if we allow our intelligence to work, it is not a difficult task to follow something, but not identified with that something. Such intelligence will provide us ultimate freedom from all bondages. Once we are free from the bondages, we will be peaceful within us and the world projected by our mind is also in peace!
One more point we need to note about anger is that we never were aware of anger, when we are caught in anger. We realize that we were angry only after the real anger is gone. We normally refer the reaction of anger as anger. This is one of the prime reasons, due to which we are unable to get freedom from anger. If we go little deep into the quality of anger, at the time of anger, there is no identification about ourselves. We lose ourselves completely, which is desirable and we are striving to reach such a self-less state. But due to undesirable nature of cause of anger, the after effects of anger are undesirable. When our images are challenged, based on the intensity of challenge, we entered the state of anger with proportional intensity. Within moments, we get into self identification and the undesirable effects of anger will start to manifest. With the self identification with images and with the challenge, we enter into a state of desperation and we normally call this state as anger, because we are aware of only this state and not the real anger.
We will be able to recognize this fact if we analyze the instant of latest anger, its cause, reaction, effects and the state of mind during the whole of this process.
The important point here is that if we are capable of observing the real moment of anger, we will understand the cause of this anger, which is the self identification with images, and will be able to eliminate it completely. To observe the moment of anger, we have to allow our intelligence to work. For the intelligence to work, we need to bring necessary changes within ourselves so that we are free of the conditioning of ourselves, at least to the extent of neither accepting nor rejecting any of our value systems and have the openness to see the things as it comes without accepting or rejecting whatever comes to us.
Let us analyze the source of anger and this knowledge may be helpful, if we wish to avoid anger within us and hence we will be approaching psychological freedom and eliminating unnecessary blood pressure spikes and unnecessary addition of acidic substances in our physiological system. None of us really want these side effects of anger, and hence anger also. However we are unable to control anger when it arises and we are aware of our anger only after it is over. This may be due to our lack of understanding of the mechanism of anger and its source.
Whenever the projection of our mind is challenged, our mind expresses the reaction as anger. The intensity of anger depends on the intensity of challenge. When we are caught in psychological bondage, the mind always project everything it sees, make it as an image and store it back in the memory. Depend on the usage of this image for our survival, the mind seeks security for the projected image, and this will be breeding point of attachment and possessiveness. Hence the intensity of our anger depends on how far we are attached with the image projected by the mind or how far the mind seeks security of that image.
We have built an image about us within our mind, which is basically what we refer as ourselves. This includes images like I am this religion; I am this caste; I am the native of this state; I am this national; I am the follower of this leader; I am the follower of this Guru, and such endless I am…. The more the number of such identifications we have about ourselves, the possibility of bondage is more and hence the frequency and intensity of our anger. The less the identification we have about ourselves, the less will be the frequency and intensity of the anger. This leads to the conclusion that we will be nearing psychological freedom as fast as we eliminate entities with which we are identified. Once there is no more identification about ourselves within us, the “I centeredness” or “Me” or “Self” cease to exist and that will be the ultimate freedom.
To reach such a state, we need not forgo the relationships in this world; need not leave behind any possessions we have; do not cease the enjoyment the existence provides to us and need not isolate ourselves from the society and culture. What we just need is an understanding of existence. And a change within us to live synchronized with the existence. Nothing more is demanded from us to have a realized, joyful life.
Let us go some more details of relation between anger and our self identifications. Let us assume we belong to the religion “A”. This means, we have strong belief about the teaching of religion “A” due to constant and prolonged insistence of the principles and value system of religion “A” within us. We are conditioned such a way that, we started feeling a great sense of fulfillment and pride with the image of being belonging to that religion. This will give a sense of pride when we say I am the follower of religion “A” and we go to such a stage that we identify ourselves as I am an “A”ian. Now we are deeply identified with the religion “A”. Now one person belong to religion “B” and as deeply attached with that religion as we are attached with “A” comes to us and question the validity of certain principles of religion “A”, we do not need any time to reach the peak of anger. The less our identification with religion “A” the more we see the validity/invalidity of the challenge and have the capability of logical reaction. If we are not at all identified ourselves with religion “A”, any question about the validity of religion “A” is not at all a challenge to us, and there is no need for us to react for that challenge, except showing logical reaction, if we wish to do so. When we do not identify ourselves with any of the religions from A to Z, none can make us anger by challenging with respect to religion. This does not mean that we should not follow any religion or belief system. We can follow any religion or any belief system of our choice. But we should also take the choice of not being identified with the religion or belief system. It may be a bit difficult to digest this argument. But if we allow our intelligence to work, it is not a difficult task to follow something, but not identified with that something. Such intelligence will provide us ultimate freedom from all bondages. Once we are free from the bondages, we will be peaceful within us and the world projected by our mind is also in peace!
One more point we need to note about anger is that we never were aware of anger, when we are caught in anger. We realize that we were angry only after the real anger is gone. We normally refer the reaction of anger as anger. This is one of the prime reasons, due to which we are unable to get freedom from anger. If we go little deep into the quality of anger, at the time of anger, there is no identification about ourselves. We lose ourselves completely, which is desirable and we are striving to reach such a self-less state. But due to undesirable nature of cause of anger, the after effects of anger are undesirable. When our images are challenged, based on the intensity of challenge, we entered the state of anger with proportional intensity. Within moments, we get into self identification and the undesirable effects of anger will start to manifest. With the self identification with images and with the challenge, we enter into a state of desperation and we normally call this state as anger, because we are aware of only this state and not the real anger.
We will be able to recognize this fact if we analyze the instant of latest anger, its cause, reaction, effects and the state of mind during the whole of this process.
The important point here is that if we are capable of observing the real moment of anger, we will understand the cause of this anger, which is the self identification with images, and will be able to eliminate it completely. To observe the moment of anger, we have to allow our intelligence to work. For the intelligence to work, we need to bring necessary changes within ourselves so that we are free of the conditioning of ourselves, at least to the extent of neither accepting nor rejecting any of our value systems and have the openness to see the things as it comes without accepting or rejecting whatever comes to us.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Bondage & Freedom-4
Now let us try to understand the child to parent relationship. Analyzing this relationship may give an additional benefit of understanding the need for security is the prime reason for attachment and possessiveness. This is one of the very complicated relationships in our culture.
Until we reach an age of independent survival, we were in the closest care and affection of our parents. At the young age, we were not building as much as images as we are doing as adults. This is the reason that children are said to be very close to the nature of God. At that stage, our survival depends on our parents and we need to have only the security and assurance of having our parents always with us. We did not need (in general) any other security as everything else were taken care by parents. Due to this dependency, we needed our parents always with us. At later stage, as we were started building psychological images and started constructing ourselves (the constructed qualities which are responsible for “ego” or “I centeredness”), we build the image of our parents and project about the comfort we would like to receive from our parents. At this age, our projection of mind will be very close to reality due to fewer images in our memory. Hence the possibility of our parents satisfying our ego is very high and this in turn builds newer images. At certain stage, we will be deeply attached to these images of our parents and the constructed quality of attachment with parents already started within us.
Due to the deep attachment with the image we projected about our parents, this is one of the most fragile relationships. Another reason for the fragility of this relationship is that at certain stage the role play of the parents interchanges. When the parents become old, for their survival, they need to depend on somebody else and naturally children will be the choice. At this stage, the there is a possibility that this relationship may break away due to two reasons.
The children had the image of parents supporting them and not the other way around. Once the children are independent, they are busy in building many more images and as there was no more need for their parents for their survival or any other need, there was no need to build further image about parents. Usually people still project the image of their aging parents and if they do so, they will be having the mind set to reverse the role play. Whenever the parents act as per their nature, which in general deviate much from the image we have about them in our mind (The image we have in our memory is just projection of our mind about parents and not the fact about parents), there is a conflict. Basically this conflict is only within us, but due to projection of mind we perceive it as the conflict in behavior of our parents. Once we start seeing the conflict in our relationships, which are mere projection of mind rather than the actual relationship, the image of our relationship start breaking. Once the image of relationship (we never had real relationship) starts breaking, we no more care about the parents. Those who are capable of seeing the conflict is due to the nature of their (image about) parents and able to cope with that difference, will still hang on with the relationships.
The parents have the image of their children, who still depend on them to fulfill their need. But the children are now grown up adults and they are actually not depending on their parents any more. Unfortunately, most of the parents are unable to leave behind the image of their children, which is an innocent, cute image. Where as the fact is entirely different and hence there is a conflict. Since the parents are still holding the image of innocent children, their ego will not allow them to listen to their children (Even though the situation forced them to listen to their children, the image deep in their mind resist it and hence become the source of conflict). Only a few parents in our culture can come out of this trap and listen to their children with out the ego clash.
The image we have about our children and parents creates the bondages and become the source of conflict with our parents and children. Freedom from this image will resolve the conflicts in parentsßàchildren relationship.
The Basic point of this discussion is that we need to realize truth to come out of various images we have built in our mind and recorded in our memory and leave our life based on this image. When we leave our life based on some image, we are far away from reality and conflict is inevitable in our life. If we live in a life of images, we can not resolve the conflicts but try to escape from the conflicts, which in turn create more conflicts. When our neighbors and we are living with conflicts (with in), conflict between us and our neighbors inevitable. Hence there is conflict with in society and which is the source of all our problems. Hence, if we want to change the world around us, first we need to ralize the truth. This realization brings in necessary changes within us so that all our conflicts within us will get resolved. When there is no conflict within us, there is no conflict with our neighbors and with society.
Until we reach an age of independent survival, we were in the closest care and affection of our parents. At the young age, we were not building as much as images as we are doing as adults. This is the reason that children are said to be very close to the nature of God. At that stage, our survival depends on our parents and we need to have only the security and assurance of having our parents always with us. We did not need (in general) any other security as everything else were taken care by parents. Due to this dependency, we needed our parents always with us. At later stage, as we were started building psychological images and started constructing ourselves (the constructed qualities which are responsible for “ego” or “I centeredness”), we build the image of our parents and project about the comfort we would like to receive from our parents. At this age, our projection of mind will be very close to reality due to fewer images in our memory. Hence the possibility of our parents satisfying our ego is very high and this in turn builds newer images. At certain stage, we will be deeply attached to these images of our parents and the constructed quality of attachment with parents already started within us.
Due to the deep attachment with the image we projected about our parents, this is one of the most fragile relationships. Another reason for the fragility of this relationship is that at certain stage the role play of the parents interchanges. When the parents become old, for their survival, they need to depend on somebody else and naturally children will be the choice. At this stage, the there is a possibility that this relationship may break away due to two reasons.
The children had the image of parents supporting them and not the other way around. Once the children are independent, they are busy in building many more images and as there was no more need for their parents for their survival or any other need, there was no need to build further image about parents. Usually people still project the image of their aging parents and if they do so, they will be having the mind set to reverse the role play. Whenever the parents act as per their nature, which in general deviate much from the image we have about them in our mind (The image we have in our memory is just projection of our mind about parents and not the fact about parents), there is a conflict. Basically this conflict is only within us, but due to projection of mind we perceive it as the conflict in behavior of our parents. Once we start seeing the conflict in our relationships, which are mere projection of mind rather than the actual relationship, the image of our relationship start breaking. Once the image of relationship (we never had real relationship) starts breaking, we no more care about the parents. Those who are capable of seeing the conflict is due to the nature of their (image about) parents and able to cope with that difference, will still hang on with the relationships.
The parents have the image of their children, who still depend on them to fulfill their need. But the children are now grown up adults and they are actually not depending on their parents any more. Unfortunately, most of the parents are unable to leave behind the image of their children, which is an innocent, cute image. Where as the fact is entirely different and hence there is a conflict. Since the parents are still holding the image of innocent children, their ego will not allow them to listen to their children (Even though the situation forced them to listen to their children, the image deep in their mind resist it and hence become the source of conflict). Only a few parents in our culture can come out of this trap and listen to their children with out the ego clash.
The image we have about our children and parents creates the bondages and become the source of conflict with our parents and children. Freedom from this image will resolve the conflicts in parentsßàchildren relationship.
The Basic point of this discussion is that we need to realize truth to come out of various images we have built in our mind and recorded in our memory and leave our life based on this image. When we leave our life based on some image, we are far away from reality and conflict is inevitable in our life. If we live in a life of images, we can not resolve the conflicts but try to escape from the conflicts, which in turn create more conflicts. When our neighbors and we are living with conflicts (with in), conflict between us and our neighbors inevitable. Hence there is conflict with in society and which is the source of all our problems. Hence, if we want to change the world around us, first we need to ralize the truth. This realization brings in necessary changes within us so that all our conflicts within us will get resolved. When there is no conflict within us, there is no conflict with our neighbors and with society.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Bondage & Freedom-3
In one of our earlier discussions, we noted that human relationships are invented to escape from conflicts within one and with others. The parent to children relationship (physical aspect) is the only exception to this. With the relationships, established a structure of society is formed and then culture. Since these things are invented to escape from conflicts rather than resolving conflicts, at certain stage these establishments became bondage. Now we are deeply bonded with relationships, we cannot breakaway the structure without leaving the culture and society behind. But for the purpose of breaking the bondage, we cannot leave the structure behind and move forward, which shall be meaningless. If we do so, we lose our life and there may not be any justification for such action, if we have already established such relationships within us. If we do so, it will bring in new conflicts within us and within those who are related with us. Hence the only way out is understand the social structure, live within the structure with complete understanding of the need for those structure for our life. Once the complete understanding is there, there will not be any more illusion and we can see what is there as it is. If we can reach this stage, the relationships are no more bondage for us because, we wipe out all constructed qualities from relationships as we have clear understanding of relationships and understanding of real purpose of this relationships. The understanding brings in the required inner freedom. Once we enjoy the freedom within us, there are no more conflicts within us. When there is no conflict within us, we are in a peaceful state. When we are peaceful, the world is peaceful because our world is just the outward projection of ourselves.
Let us try to understand parent children relationships. This is one relationship which no one can escape. All of us were a child of somebody. Once we understand the nature of this relationship, there will not be any new conflicts within us due to this relationship and there will not be any contamination of this relationship with attachment, possessiveness, jealous, envy, anger and any other constructed qualities. Once we understand the structure of this relationship and the basic maintenance requirement of this relationship, we can enjoy the pure relationship without any contamination.
Procreation is the nature of existence and for procreation our body has natural mechanism to have male female attraction. This is an unavoidable attraction express itself as desire, and is required for sustaining existence of human form. Because of this desire, procreation takes place and parent children relationship is already established. Here we need to understand one thing. There may be very few for who, by their very nature, the attraction required for procreation may not arise within them. For them, if the job of procreation is imposed on them by society, their life is finished there!
Even though it is a natural process, it is because of our desire the procreation happened and we are completely responsible for our action. In this case, it is the action due to our desire. The child is a product of our desire. Hence it is our responsibility to prepare the child as a socially compatible being. This is the very nature of parent-child relationship with respect to the parent. For us, whether we execute our responsibility or not, we start projecting the relationship out of our (virtual) need of psychological security. Having the child with us and its very nature of innocence, we start enjoy the togetherness. If it stops there, it is fine. But we would like to have the quality of innocence with the child forever and the attachment with the child is already there. We are in a state, even before the birth of child, we do all sort of mental projections about the child and its innocence and build the attachment even before the birth of child. And in many cases even before the child is created we do our mental projection and form an attachment with a non existing entity.
As explained in previous discussions, the attachment will slowly become possessiveness. Once possessiveness about the child is created within us, the natural extension is fear and all our inner freedom is gone at once! If the question arises then, what to do with the child after he/she is born? Just leave them aside and go away? Definitely not! The child is a product of our desire. We have the complete responsibility for bringing up the child as a socially compatible being. While doing this process, we may enjoy the innocence of the child as long as it is with the child without any expectation having that innocence forever, because it is practically not possible. Watch and enjoy each step on the growth of child and get relieved from our responsibilities over the child.
Just think over as an outsider, what sort of happiness and peacefulness we will have, if we just execute our responsibility without entangled in the bondage of attachment and possessiveness with the child. It is not just theory. We can practically implement it in our lives, if we allow our intelligence to work, if we allow our intelligence to see the truth, if we allow our intelligence to understand the relationships.
Let us try to understand parent children relationships. This is one relationship which no one can escape. All of us were a child of somebody. Once we understand the nature of this relationship, there will not be any new conflicts within us due to this relationship and there will not be any contamination of this relationship with attachment, possessiveness, jealous, envy, anger and any other constructed qualities. Once we understand the structure of this relationship and the basic maintenance requirement of this relationship, we can enjoy the pure relationship without any contamination.
Procreation is the nature of existence and for procreation our body has natural mechanism to have male female attraction. This is an unavoidable attraction express itself as desire, and is required for sustaining existence of human form. Because of this desire, procreation takes place and parent children relationship is already established. Here we need to understand one thing. There may be very few for who, by their very nature, the attraction required for procreation may not arise within them. For them, if the job of procreation is imposed on them by society, their life is finished there!
Even though it is a natural process, it is because of our desire the procreation happened and we are completely responsible for our action. In this case, it is the action due to our desire. The child is a product of our desire. Hence it is our responsibility to prepare the child as a socially compatible being. This is the very nature of parent-child relationship with respect to the parent. For us, whether we execute our responsibility or not, we start projecting the relationship out of our (virtual) need of psychological security. Having the child with us and its very nature of innocence, we start enjoy the togetherness. If it stops there, it is fine. But we would like to have the quality of innocence with the child forever and the attachment with the child is already there. We are in a state, even before the birth of child, we do all sort of mental projections about the child and its innocence and build the attachment even before the birth of child. And in many cases even before the child is created we do our mental projection and form an attachment with a non existing entity.
As explained in previous discussions, the attachment will slowly become possessiveness. Once possessiveness about the child is created within us, the natural extension is fear and all our inner freedom is gone at once! If the question arises then, what to do with the child after he/she is born? Just leave them aside and go away? Definitely not! The child is a product of our desire. We have the complete responsibility for bringing up the child as a socially compatible being. While doing this process, we may enjoy the innocence of the child as long as it is with the child without any expectation having that innocence forever, because it is practically not possible. Watch and enjoy each step on the growth of child and get relieved from our responsibilities over the child.
Just think over as an outsider, what sort of happiness and peacefulness we will have, if we just execute our responsibility without entangled in the bondage of attachment and possessiveness with the child. It is not just theory. We can practically implement it in our lives, if we allow our intelligence to work, if we allow our intelligence to see the truth, if we allow our intelligence to understand the relationships.
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Bondage & Freedom-2
WE have seen that attachments with respect to relationships are due to the security sought by the mind so that it can escape from conflicts. When the need for this security intensifies, the attachment become possessiveness, even with the relationships and we can sense at this point the problem is worsening and new conflicts are arising within the relationships. Now we need to escape from (we not yet reached a stage for resolving the conflicts) more conflicts and it has become a cascaded system of conflicts and escapes. Now we start seeking an ultimate escape (not yet reached a stage of thinking of completely resolving all the conflicts) and hence we (our ancestors) invented GOD for that purpose. Now we are conditioned so much due to the conflicts during last twenty thousands years of human existence, GOD is an inseparable entity for us. From this above discussion, we might have understood, there is no escape from conflicts. The more we try to escape from conflicts the more we caught in between the conflicts and hence the term ultimate escape itself is deceptive in nature.
Let us allow our intelligence work for ourselves for some time and try to understand the constructed quality possessiveness, which may helpful to resolve a couple of conflicts, if we can integrate the understandings into our life, we may little bit closer to reality.
We have noted that possessiveness is nothing but intensified attachment. With this view we clearly know that possessiveness is an unwanted quality as it was just the glorification of another unwanted quality called attachment. We already established that attachment is an unwanted quality. Let us look into possessiveness as a fresh entity.
Let us try to analyze possessiveness with respect to relationships. This is because if we can resolve the conflicts with relationships, it is very easy to resolve any other conflicts. Having psychological security is a way for escaping from conflicts. We have numerous conflicts within us. We are constantly increasing those conflicts within us in addition to the conflicts genetically handed over to us from our ancestors and together already handed over to the next generation or will handover shortly. Only very few try to resolve the conflicts, yet they cannot help from handing over those conflicts to next generation. The next generations have to workout freshly, if they want to resolve those conflicts rather than escaping from them.
Possessiveness is the result of our urge to have psychological security. The spouse is a completely different entity from us with respect to our present level of perception. What we know about our spouse is a small fraction of what he/she is. There is no second opinion about this. To make it further clear, what we know about our spouse is just the projection of our mind (except, may be the physical nature). We imagine this and that are the qualities of our spouse, exactly the same way about their image of us within them.
The problem starts when we want to hold on this image for ever. On the other hand, when we desire to possess this image for ever within us to have a sense of security with that relationship, we are already having the constructed quality possessiveness within us. Now we are possessive of our spouse. When the spouse exhibit his/her real nature (which we don’t know at all!) and when it differ from the image we have about our spouse, it is a great psychological blow to us. This is because, we lost the psychological security projected by our mind (not actual, but projection of mind) as his/her expression of himself/herself is not coinciding the image we have projected within our mind, with respect to our relationship with the spouse. So, new set of conflicts aroused within us.
If we go back from this point, the new conflicts are not there, if we don’t have a psychological blow with respect to the expression of our spouse. The psychological blow is not there if the expression of our spouse is not against our image about the spouse. If we do not have a projected image about our spouse, there is no possibility for a conflict between these two (The expression of spouse is unavoidable where as our image about the spouse is avoidable). The image about the spouse is not required, if we understand the relationship itself. Once we understand the relationship, its need and its existence, there is no need for seeking security and hence holding on with the projected image, which is possessiveness. On the other hand, possessiveness on our relationship with spouse is our demand on our spouse to comply with our image about him/her. We claim that the attachment and possessiveness are due to our deep love with our spouse. If we really love him/her, can we ever insist them to always comply with our demand? If we truly love them, we love each and every of their action, irrespective of, what their actions are! With the present social set up and at our present dimension of perception, none of us can really exhibit such a love. When we are not able to love him/her, Why should we need to create an illusion about Love and to support this illusion why should we create the constructed qualities like attachment possessiveness, which just give a false sense of security and the breeding point of new conflicts and fear and take away all our inner freedom and bind us with all these illusions of security. Why can’t we accept our inability for true Love, but live our life with in the social structure. Once we are capable of doing this, there is possibility of better understanding between the spouses and probably they can enter into the domain of true Love also.
The same concept is true with any relationship and hence what is the need for possessiveness in our life with respect to relationships. Now the problem is shifted to understanding the relationships
Let us allow our intelligence work for ourselves for some time and try to understand the constructed quality possessiveness, which may helpful to resolve a couple of conflicts, if we can integrate the understandings into our life, we may little bit closer to reality.
We have noted that possessiveness is nothing but intensified attachment. With this view we clearly know that possessiveness is an unwanted quality as it was just the glorification of another unwanted quality called attachment. We already established that attachment is an unwanted quality. Let us look into possessiveness as a fresh entity.
Let us try to analyze possessiveness with respect to relationships. This is because if we can resolve the conflicts with relationships, it is very easy to resolve any other conflicts. Having psychological security is a way for escaping from conflicts. We have numerous conflicts within us. We are constantly increasing those conflicts within us in addition to the conflicts genetically handed over to us from our ancestors and together already handed over to the next generation or will handover shortly. Only very few try to resolve the conflicts, yet they cannot help from handing over those conflicts to next generation. The next generations have to workout freshly, if they want to resolve those conflicts rather than escaping from them.
Possessiveness is the result of our urge to have psychological security. The spouse is a completely different entity from us with respect to our present level of perception. What we know about our spouse is a small fraction of what he/she is. There is no second opinion about this. To make it further clear, what we know about our spouse is just the projection of our mind (except, may be the physical nature). We imagine this and that are the qualities of our spouse, exactly the same way about their image of us within them.
The problem starts when we want to hold on this image for ever. On the other hand, when we desire to possess this image for ever within us to have a sense of security with that relationship, we are already having the constructed quality possessiveness within us. Now we are possessive of our spouse. When the spouse exhibit his/her real nature (which we don’t know at all!) and when it differ from the image we have about our spouse, it is a great psychological blow to us. This is because, we lost the psychological security projected by our mind (not actual, but projection of mind) as his/her expression of himself/herself is not coinciding the image we have projected within our mind, with respect to our relationship with the spouse. So, new set of conflicts aroused within us.
If we go back from this point, the new conflicts are not there, if we don’t have a psychological blow with respect to the expression of our spouse. The psychological blow is not there if the expression of our spouse is not against our image about the spouse. If we do not have a projected image about our spouse, there is no possibility for a conflict between these two (The expression of spouse is unavoidable where as our image about the spouse is avoidable). The image about the spouse is not required, if we understand the relationship itself. Once we understand the relationship, its need and its existence, there is no need for seeking security and hence holding on with the projected image, which is possessiveness. On the other hand, possessiveness on our relationship with spouse is our demand on our spouse to comply with our image about him/her. We claim that the attachment and possessiveness are due to our deep love with our spouse. If we really love him/her, can we ever insist them to always comply with our demand? If we truly love them, we love each and every of their action, irrespective of, what their actions are! With the present social set up and at our present dimension of perception, none of us can really exhibit such a love. When we are not able to love him/her, Why should we need to create an illusion about Love and to support this illusion why should we create the constructed qualities like attachment possessiveness, which just give a false sense of security and the breeding point of new conflicts and fear and take away all our inner freedom and bind us with all these illusions of security. Why can’t we accept our inability for true Love, but live our life with in the social structure. Once we are capable of doing this, there is possibility of better understanding between the spouses and probably they can enter into the domain of true Love also.
The same concept is true with any relationship and hence what is the need for possessiveness in our life with respect to relationships. Now the problem is shifted to understanding the relationships
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Bondage & Freedom-1
Before going further let us introduce a concept here. Whatever we perceive about outside is the projection of our mind. This implies if our mind is violent, we perceive violence outside us, if our mind is in order we perceive the outside world in order. Please do not come to the conclusion about this statement that this world is illusion or Maya as explained by few of the followers of Vedanta. The world is the existing entitiy, we are existing entities, everything happening in the world is happening in real time.
When we were discussing about the topic of self image we noted that whatever we know about ourselves is just the image of what we have about ourselves. That is the knowledge about ourselves itself is the projection of our mind. It is just the qualities we imagine about ourselves. That is whenever we use the word “I” or “Me”, it is just the bundle of qualities which our mind is projecting about ourselves plus our body. When the Indian philosophies indicates that we must forego our “ego” or “I centeredness” or “self” to reach the state of realization means, we must come out of this projection of our mind about ourselves to enter into pure reality. That implies, we are no more certain bunch of qualities, we are just the absolute existence as it is. We have the complete knowledge of existence within us by means of our conscious/subconscious/unconscious/collective-unconscious mind.
Let us analyze how this image affects our perception of world and hence before solving the problem outside, the requirement about the need to solve the problems inside. To solve the problem inside, what are the necessary changes to be happened inside and how to bring about those changes!
Normally we say we are deeply attached with our spouse, children and parents, at least. Let us try to see how far it is true. This analyze is not to prove that what we have is not attachment or we do not love those relations. But to indicate all these attachments and whatever we are saying are just the projection of our mind. Once we understand our present state, towards these relations are just the projection of our mind, we will be able to give true Love to them, which will give pain neither to us nor to them, but provide the ultimate happiness. That is the basic essence of this discussion. Please note that this discussion is not for bringing in any conflicts within us, but to eliminate the conflicts within us. After the discussion, if any new conflict arises within us, say about our relationships, it implies that the essence of this discussion has not entered in to our perception, but only the words entered into our perception as a fragment.
Whatever we know about ourselves is the projection of our mind. In such case, what about our knowledge about the spouse? At this point, we need to realize one thing. Our spouse is a separate entity, which is entirely different from us in the dimension of our perception. To understand this, just imagine how much of our qualities are known to our spouse. Our spouse may know slightly better than others due to the intimate relation. But the spouse’s knowledge about us is just a fraction of what we are (or what we consider as ourselves). The same is true with us about our spouse. If we do not know about something, can we really love that entity? If we cannot do it with something, surely it is applicable with respect to our spouse. Please note that this is not to bring in a conflict within our relationships and forgo the spouse, but to resolve the conflict and have better relationship. Whether we truly love our spouse or not we need that relationship for a social life.
At this point, it may be appropriate to discuss a little bit about society, culture and relationships. Two hundred thousand years ago we were just animals. There were no culture and no relationships. Like animals, we were also just doing whatever necessary for our survival and procreation. May be until twenty to thirty thousand years we were like that, but evolving slowly. At this point we got intelligence to use the nature for our survival. Due to continuous evolution and development of intelligence, conflict started between the human beings. To escape from conflicts, (Note that it is not resolving the conflict, but escaping from conflict. We are still in the state of finding means to escape from our conflicts and not at all trying to resolve the conflicts) they devised certain rules. By these rules, they must have been able to escape from the conflicts at that time. Since it was just the escape from the conflict, other conflicts pop out from some other direction. To escape from this new conflict another rule and so on. Different group of human being must have established different set of rules and this has become culture and society. Once they started complying with the rules of their culture and society, relationships must have been developed.
So what we see today as culture, society and relationships are the means of escape from conflict. This does not mean to resolve the conflicts we must forgo culture, society and relationships. Even though if we do that completely with the awareness of what we are doing, we can end all conflicts within us. But practically it is not possible. We are deep in to the cultural, social and relational field and we cannot live a life without such social establishments. Here the reality is we have to have a social life.
Coming back to the point of our attachment to the relationships, our spouse is a totally different entity with respect to ourselves with respect to the present dimension of our perception. We are in that relationship just because of social establishment. Because of our quest to comply with the social establishment and its rules, we seek security in that relationship. The first problem started at our quest to comply with rules and the second problem started when we seek security in the relationships.
When it is said that the first problem started at our quest to comply with rules does not mean that there is no need to comply with the rules. If we want to be in social establishment we need to comply with the rules. The point here is that we need to change inwardly so that complying that rule will not become a problem, but due to our inward change, the conflicts get resolved. This is the essence of this discussion. We need to take utmost care while discussing such a sensitive issue.
Now the point here is are we really having any security with the relationship? If we look it as an outsider of this establishment we can clearly understand there is no such security in any of the relationships. It is because the life of us or our spouse may end at any time, may be now or next moment or next year or next decade or after sixty years, which is (The time scale) uncertain. There is a possibility of misunderstanding and hence breaking the relationship is also there. There is a possibility of moving away from each other for long period due to the requirement of our survival and endless possibilities. Hence there is no actual security for relationships. We caught in between many such conflicts never allow our intelligence to work and hence we somehow like to have a feeling (not real) of security. The mind now establishes a feeling of security (Illusion about relationships) by projecting about this relationship. While doing such projection, the mind also establishes security in availability of many other requirements for basic life like security in shelter, food, money, health, loneliness and so on. Understanding this fact – that is all our feelings of security are just the projection of mind, is really not easy. This goal can be achieved only if we allow our intelligence to work. If we are caught in some belief system or conditioning, which will just project another form of security and that will also be an illusion. For its projection, the mind establishes and uses the constructed qualities like attachment, possessiveness and so on.
We have discussed the mechanism of establishing the constructed quality of attachment with respect to relationships. The above discussion of attachment with the relationship of spouse is applicable to all other relationships exist in our social framework, like parent children relationship, friends relationship and every other relationships.
When we were discussing about the topic of self image we noted that whatever we know about ourselves is just the image of what we have about ourselves. That is the knowledge about ourselves itself is the projection of our mind. It is just the qualities we imagine about ourselves. That is whenever we use the word “I” or “Me”, it is just the bundle of qualities which our mind is projecting about ourselves plus our body. When the Indian philosophies indicates that we must forego our “ego” or “I centeredness” or “self” to reach the state of realization means, we must come out of this projection of our mind about ourselves to enter into pure reality. That implies, we are no more certain bunch of qualities, we are just the absolute existence as it is. We have the complete knowledge of existence within us by means of our conscious/subconscious/unconscious/collective-unconscious mind.
Let us analyze how this image affects our perception of world and hence before solving the problem outside, the requirement about the need to solve the problems inside. To solve the problem inside, what are the necessary changes to be happened inside and how to bring about those changes!
Normally we say we are deeply attached with our spouse, children and parents, at least. Let us try to see how far it is true. This analyze is not to prove that what we have is not attachment or we do not love those relations. But to indicate all these attachments and whatever we are saying are just the projection of our mind. Once we understand our present state, towards these relations are just the projection of our mind, we will be able to give true Love to them, which will give pain neither to us nor to them, but provide the ultimate happiness. That is the basic essence of this discussion. Please note that this discussion is not for bringing in any conflicts within us, but to eliminate the conflicts within us. After the discussion, if any new conflict arises within us, say about our relationships, it implies that the essence of this discussion has not entered in to our perception, but only the words entered into our perception as a fragment.
Whatever we know about ourselves is the projection of our mind. In such case, what about our knowledge about the spouse? At this point, we need to realize one thing. Our spouse is a separate entity, which is entirely different from us in the dimension of our perception. To understand this, just imagine how much of our qualities are known to our spouse. Our spouse may know slightly better than others due to the intimate relation. But the spouse’s knowledge about us is just a fraction of what we are (or what we consider as ourselves). The same is true with us about our spouse. If we do not know about something, can we really love that entity? If we cannot do it with something, surely it is applicable with respect to our spouse. Please note that this is not to bring in a conflict within our relationships and forgo the spouse, but to resolve the conflict and have better relationship. Whether we truly love our spouse or not we need that relationship for a social life.
At this point, it may be appropriate to discuss a little bit about society, culture and relationships. Two hundred thousand years ago we were just animals. There were no culture and no relationships. Like animals, we were also just doing whatever necessary for our survival and procreation. May be until twenty to thirty thousand years we were like that, but evolving slowly. At this point we got intelligence to use the nature for our survival. Due to continuous evolution and development of intelligence, conflict started between the human beings. To escape from conflicts, (Note that it is not resolving the conflict, but escaping from conflict. We are still in the state of finding means to escape from our conflicts and not at all trying to resolve the conflicts) they devised certain rules. By these rules, they must have been able to escape from the conflicts at that time. Since it was just the escape from the conflict, other conflicts pop out from some other direction. To escape from this new conflict another rule and so on. Different group of human being must have established different set of rules and this has become culture and society. Once they started complying with the rules of their culture and society, relationships must have been developed.
So what we see today as culture, society and relationships are the means of escape from conflict. This does not mean to resolve the conflicts we must forgo culture, society and relationships. Even though if we do that completely with the awareness of what we are doing, we can end all conflicts within us. But practically it is not possible. We are deep in to the cultural, social and relational field and we cannot live a life without such social establishments. Here the reality is we have to have a social life.
Coming back to the point of our attachment to the relationships, our spouse is a totally different entity with respect to ourselves with respect to the present dimension of our perception. We are in that relationship just because of social establishment. Because of our quest to comply with the social establishment and its rules, we seek security in that relationship. The first problem started at our quest to comply with rules and the second problem started when we seek security in the relationships.
When it is said that the first problem started at our quest to comply with rules does not mean that there is no need to comply with the rules. If we want to be in social establishment we need to comply with the rules. The point here is that we need to change inwardly so that complying that rule will not become a problem, but due to our inward change, the conflicts get resolved. This is the essence of this discussion. We need to take utmost care while discussing such a sensitive issue.
Now the point here is are we really having any security with the relationship? If we look it as an outsider of this establishment we can clearly understand there is no such security in any of the relationships. It is because the life of us or our spouse may end at any time, may be now or next moment or next year or next decade or after sixty years, which is (The time scale) uncertain. There is a possibility of misunderstanding and hence breaking the relationship is also there. There is a possibility of moving away from each other for long period due to the requirement of our survival and endless possibilities. Hence there is no actual security for relationships. We caught in between many such conflicts never allow our intelligence to work and hence we somehow like to have a feeling (not real) of security. The mind now establishes a feeling of security (Illusion about relationships) by projecting about this relationship. While doing such projection, the mind also establishes security in availability of many other requirements for basic life like security in shelter, food, money, health, loneliness and so on. Understanding this fact – that is all our feelings of security are just the projection of mind, is really not easy. This goal can be achieved only if we allow our intelligence to work. If we are caught in some belief system or conditioning, which will just project another form of security and that will also be an illusion. For its projection, the mind establishes and uses the constructed qualities like attachment, possessiveness and so on.
We have discussed the mechanism of establishing the constructed quality of attachment with respect to relationships. The above discussion of attachment with the relationship of spouse is applicable to all other relationships exist in our social framework, like parent children relationship, friends relationship and every other relationships.
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