We are living a life of comparison. We ourselves are the result of comparison – our identification or the ego or the self is the outcome of comparison. Also the fear, desire, suffering, and problems are result of comparison. From the time we started perceiving the world in this life, we were taught to compare one and everything. Our education systems make us to compare ourselves and everything else in all aspects, but never taught us how to be untouched by the act of comparison. It is up to us to learn, to be free from comparison and even if we need to compare certain things, untouched by the act of comparison. We explore this possibility, if and only if, we are aware of the richness of the life which is without comparison and see the absurdness of the act of comparison.
The life we know is a life of fulfilling our ego or the self. The ego is nothing but the psychological identification we built about ourselves. How the act of identification performed for anything? Identification of anything is relative to something else. To identify any thing, we need certain other thing with this the first one will be related and identified. On the other hand identification is nothing but the result of comparison. Same is the case of identification of us. There may be certain physical qualities which we identify by means of certain established measurement, which we may consider as not relative to anything else in general and of course we need such identifications. But they have nothing to do with our psychology in lay man terms or with the “Stamps” we are collecting in modern psychologist (Transactional analyst) terms or with the “Karma” in philosophical terms. Hence we are not concerned with such physical identification based on established measurements.
We are concerned with the identification which generates turbulence in our mind or transacting stamps or imprinting Karmas. Let as try to analyze how the ego is built on us from certain angle of view. Very often children are referred as the reflection of GOD. This is because the children (probably) don’t have any ego, even if they have ego, they have no means to express it. But the first thing we teach them is how to build the ego of their own. As soon as the child get the capability to listen us, we teach them the concept of good and bad, and we start honoring the so called good. The child is already having an ego of its own and the ‘GODness’ is already gone.
The child seeks security for its survival. When we honor so called ‘good’ and discount so called ‘bad’, the child learns it has to be good to have security. The question of such discriminating power of child is not valid because any living organism, whatever it may be, has certain intelligence of its own. The child also has that intelligence. Once the child knows it has to be good, to have security, it starts projecting so called good and start identifying itself with that good. The psychological identification is already there and the child cannot be considered anymore as reflection of GOD. The child which starts identifying itself with majority of so called good qualities are not much threat for the society in general terms, where as the child growing with the identification of so called bad qualities become a huge threat to the society as a whole.
As soon as the psychological identification with certain good or bad quality is formed, the “I” or “me” or “ego” is created within the child. Once the ego is created, the child starts to look everything around it with reference to this ego, the ego grows stronger, and finally we are here as we are now. We do not know how to see anything as it is. We know seeing, anything and everything, only with respect to our ego. That is why the world is termed as Maya or Illusion by certain philosophies.
How the child knows it as good or bad? The child performs certain action and observes the reaction of environment. This action and reaction goes into its memory. It does another action and that also goes into its memory. Now it compares at which action it felt more secured and labels that action as good. Now for extending the feeling of security, the child identifies itself with the so called good action. Hence, even if we are not there to teach the child about good or bad, it has inbuilt mechanism to learn about good and bad, which is the result of conditioning by generation after generation, even before the formation of human species.
As we have seen, the direct effect of comparison is build up of ego and the side effects are fear, insecurity, desire, and all such qualities. We have also already seen that the qualities which are the side effects of comparison are absolute unnecessary for living a joyful life. Hence we don’t need to do comparison at all, at psychological level. How to be free from the act of comparison? If we take a vow like our New Year resolutions, we can never stop comparison. The only way out is understands the mechanism of comparison from its root until the end of all side effects. This does not mean take an imaginary case and analyze it by means of mental projection. We have more than enough live examples within our mind to track from its root to the end. If we can understand by this way, then we are completely aware of the process of comparison and the uselessness of comparison. If we really know something is not at all useful for us in any manner, will we pursue such thing in our life? Same principle applies for psychological process also and if we really understand that comparison will do any good for us, we will not pursue it at all and the desire for comparison will dissolve from us. The key point is complete understanding of the process of comparison. Nobody else can give that understanding to us. It is up to us to understand the effect of comparison ourselves by tracking ourselves and decide whether we need to pursue or give up the habit of comparison. We will be able decide upon this only if we are aware of the quality of life in which the comparison does not have any space. This awareness is possible only if we look deep enough in to our way of life.
Friday, May 29, 2009
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Conflicts
We are living our life with full of conflicts – Conflicts with others, conflicts with environment, conflict with the world and conflict within ourselves. Living with conflict has become our way of life. We are so much into the conflicts and now we are in a state that without conflict, either within or with outside world, we started feeling ourselves as incomplete.
Why is it so? When there is no conflict, there is no outward work for the mind. When the mind is free, it starts turning inward. When it turns inward, it sees the nakedness of us. If we are not matured enough to see ourselves as we are, we will get frightened. To escape from this fear, the mind will start projecting the world based on the content of our memory and in this projection we start seeing ourselves and the world as incomplete.
If we seriously look into this process, we can definitely understand that this is not the way of life for which the human life is intended for. Human beings are the most evolved beings in this world, which is the result of about 13 billion years of evolution. Having the experience of 13 billion years within us and still we live such a life, it is entirely due to our ignorance and not due to our incapability. Unless we express the evolution in our life it will be an absolute meaningless life, whatever may be our projection as our achievement.
As a evolved being, it is our nature to live a life which is intended for human being and out of ignorance we are living a life of conflicts and hence sufferings. To move into the domain of life which is intended for us, the first step must be to recognize our ignorance, which is the most difficult part of this process. It is not difficult because of our incapability, but because of the belief systems in which we are immersed ourselves. The difficulty lies in moving away from all our belief systems. If we could take this first step, there may not be any looking back.
The irony is that most of us lack energy to look into our ignorance. Unless we have sufficient energy within us, we may not be able to look into our belief systems and ignorance with required intensity. Hence, there is a need for energizing ourselves to get sufficient intensity into our looking. Certain methods may be used for energizing ourselves so that we can have an intensive looking into our ignorance and dissolve our ignorance. But one has to have enough awareness of this methods, otherwise will become the slave of those methods.
Coming back to our point of discussion, if we look deep enough into any of our conflicts with outside world, we will be able to find that it has started from a conflict within ourselves. Hence the source of any outside conflict is the conflict within us. If we know how to live a life without any conflict within us, then we know how to live a life without any conflict with the outside world.
Conflict arises within us because we are in a situation where we need to choose for any of our actions. It is obvious that wherever there is a choice, there is a conflict. The choices are there because we do not have enough awareness about ourselves as well as about the world and hence we do not really know what is needed out of us. Because of the lack of awareness we start projecting about ourselves and the world. The projection about ourselves and the world are the product of our mind and not real, because we do not have necessary awareness to look into the reality as it is, without the projection of mind. We know about ourselves and outside world only by means of comparison. The outcome of any comparison is relative to the compared. It is not absolute. Hence what we know about ourselves is just the projection of our mind and when we identify all our actions with the projection of our mind, there will be multiple choices available for choose due to the fact that we have multiple images of ourselves and world within our mind and hence conflict is inevitable.
Does it mean that we can be free from conflicts only when we are aware of the absoluteness? The answer is definitely NO. When we are aware that the choices are there, because we have the multiple projections within our mind, definitely we look more intensively and more deeply. The awareness of multiple choices itself give us the necessary energy to look into more deeply. If we look deep enough, we understand the situation completely and understand what is needed for that situation. With this intensity of looking, we lose all choices and hence there are no more conflicts in our action and hence no more conflicts within us. When we are free from conflicts, there are no more conflicts with outside world.
What we need is just the awareness of our thought process. It is so simple. We do not need any GOD. We do not need any Guru. We do not need any Astrologer. We do not need any particular cosmic structure. We do not need any scripture. We do not need anybody else. We just have to understand the game of our mind. Nobody else can show it to us, unless we ourselves willingly look into our thoughts. We need not even forcefully stop the projection of our mind. Let the mind does what it likes to do, but just be aware of the difference between what we really see and what we perceive as seen due to the projection of mind. If we can bring in that much awareness within us, we are very near to have a world of our liking.
Why is it so? When there is no conflict, there is no outward work for the mind. When the mind is free, it starts turning inward. When it turns inward, it sees the nakedness of us. If we are not matured enough to see ourselves as we are, we will get frightened. To escape from this fear, the mind will start projecting the world based on the content of our memory and in this projection we start seeing ourselves and the world as incomplete.
If we seriously look into this process, we can definitely understand that this is not the way of life for which the human life is intended for. Human beings are the most evolved beings in this world, which is the result of about 13 billion years of evolution. Having the experience of 13 billion years within us and still we live such a life, it is entirely due to our ignorance and not due to our incapability. Unless we express the evolution in our life it will be an absolute meaningless life, whatever may be our projection as our achievement.
As a evolved being, it is our nature to live a life which is intended for human being and out of ignorance we are living a life of conflicts and hence sufferings. To move into the domain of life which is intended for us, the first step must be to recognize our ignorance, which is the most difficult part of this process. It is not difficult because of our incapability, but because of the belief systems in which we are immersed ourselves. The difficulty lies in moving away from all our belief systems. If we could take this first step, there may not be any looking back.
The irony is that most of us lack energy to look into our ignorance. Unless we have sufficient energy within us, we may not be able to look into our belief systems and ignorance with required intensity. Hence, there is a need for energizing ourselves to get sufficient intensity into our looking. Certain methods may be used for energizing ourselves so that we can have an intensive looking into our ignorance and dissolve our ignorance. But one has to have enough awareness of this methods, otherwise will become the slave of those methods.
Coming back to our point of discussion, if we look deep enough into any of our conflicts with outside world, we will be able to find that it has started from a conflict within ourselves. Hence the source of any outside conflict is the conflict within us. If we know how to live a life without any conflict within us, then we know how to live a life without any conflict with the outside world.
Conflict arises within us because we are in a situation where we need to choose for any of our actions. It is obvious that wherever there is a choice, there is a conflict. The choices are there because we do not have enough awareness about ourselves as well as about the world and hence we do not really know what is needed out of us. Because of the lack of awareness we start projecting about ourselves and the world. The projection about ourselves and the world are the product of our mind and not real, because we do not have necessary awareness to look into the reality as it is, without the projection of mind. We know about ourselves and outside world only by means of comparison. The outcome of any comparison is relative to the compared. It is not absolute. Hence what we know about ourselves is just the projection of our mind and when we identify all our actions with the projection of our mind, there will be multiple choices available for choose due to the fact that we have multiple images of ourselves and world within our mind and hence conflict is inevitable.
Does it mean that we can be free from conflicts only when we are aware of the absoluteness? The answer is definitely NO. When we are aware that the choices are there, because we have the multiple projections within our mind, definitely we look more intensively and more deeply. The awareness of multiple choices itself give us the necessary energy to look into more deeply. If we look deep enough, we understand the situation completely and understand what is needed for that situation. With this intensity of looking, we lose all choices and hence there are no more conflicts in our action and hence no more conflicts within us. When we are free from conflicts, there are no more conflicts with outside world.
What we need is just the awareness of our thought process. It is so simple. We do not need any GOD. We do not need any Guru. We do not need any Astrologer. We do not need any particular cosmic structure. We do not need any scripture. We do not need anybody else. We just have to understand the game of our mind. Nobody else can show it to us, unless we ourselves willingly look into our thoughts. We need not even forcefully stop the projection of our mind. Let the mind does what it likes to do, but just be aware of the difference between what we really see and what we perceive as seen due to the projection of mind. If we can bring in that much awareness within us, we are very near to have a world of our liking.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Recapture
We started of this discussion about the change, we perceive as required in the world around us, to have a world of our choice.
During this discussion we noted that, to have a world of our choice, the first step is bringing in necessary changes within us. Before we change ourselves, as we would like others to be, we can not ask others to change. This implies that we cannot ask the world to change according to our liking unless we change ourselves. If we do so before changing ourselves, we must be mentally imbalanced being. Unfortunately, most of us (At least 90% of human population of this planet) belong to this category. Hence the first step is to bring in necessary changes with in us. To bring in the change with in ourselves, first up all we need to understand the required change. If we do not have the necessary understanding there is not at all any possibility for an inward change.
During this discussion, we tried to understand different qualities with which we attach ourselves. The habit of identifying ourselves with these qualities is the root cause of all our problems and which in turn stimulate us for asking the society to change. This discussion might have indicated about the possibility of a life, which is altogether different from the current life which most of us are living (??). On the other hand, this discussion might have indicated that there is a possibility of life, in which we may be having all the comforts, which we are having now minus the suffering we have and possibly much better way of living.
The key point is that unless we recognize the possibility of such life, which is very much possible for every one of us, we are not going to look into what is that life and hence we are not going to live that life. The type of life, which is unknown for us until now is not meant for only the so-called saints. It is meant for the whole of humanity. Unless we recognize that, we are not going to look into the possibility of living that life ourselves. Unless we look into it, we are not going to get it.
This is because we are entangled with few moments of projected happiness of the life, which we are living and considering as the way of life. We are conditioned so much by our culture, by our religions, by our parents, by our belief systems to such an extent, we fear to look beyond that conditioning. The looking beyond our conditioning is possible only if we realize that our state of conditioning and as a result of that conditioning a whole new way of life is denied to us. The new way of life – all the comforts we are enjoying and much more minus all our current sufferings is possible only if we look beyond our belief systems and question each and every conclusions we have, with out any bias on either direction. These discussions might have been a great step towards recognizing the possibility of such life for ourselves, if we really see deeply into the points being discussed.
We have already discussed few of the human conditions, which bring in duality with in human perception. As long as we are into the domain of duality or as long as we do not understand the space between duality or the continuity between duality, we cannot live a fearless life and hence the other way of life is not possible. The earlier discussions might have indicated that it is actually an easiest task to transcend duality and what we need is a very minor inward change, with that change we can look into existence without any bias. This looking of existence will simply free us from all our psychological bondages. As soon as this happens, our life will transcend to the one we discussed above.
To have such a looking into existence, we need a great deal of intensity. Due to our current life style and current way of education system, we have almost lost our sensitivity to existence. To bring in the necessary intensity of looking the existence, we may have to bring in necessary sensitivity to our system (Physical, psychological, emotional, energy) towards existence. This is the point where we may need to have certain methods. Please note that the methods are just to bring in necessary sensitivity to our system towards existence. The methods cannot do anything more than that. Once the sensitivity is brought into the system, we will be having necessary intensity in all our actions this intensity will lead us to the other way of life, which is all our comforts plus, probably much more much more, minus the sufferings.
When we use the methods, great care must be taken not to get attached with the method. If not, we just stuck at the method and our progress towards the better way of living will stop there. The methods may give a false feeling of satisfaction, which we can any way drive from our current way of living. Due to the falsity of this satisfaction, we will be in a much bigger trap. The key point here is the awareness of existence at all times. If we lose the awareness for a brief period, we may fall in a trap, which will be again same as our current way of life.
In addition to the causes of suffering of our current life, we may discuss the overview of few of the methods given by Indian culture towards improving our sensitivity towards existence. It is to be noted that the method suitable for one person may not be suitable for another person, which is due to the chemical composition of individuals. Hence it is up to the individuals to follow certain method suitable for them to increase the sensitivity of their system.
If we condense the content of this discussion, it may be stated as below.
1. Realize the possibility of a better life for every one of us
2. Bring in necessary inward change to live that life
3. See the necessity of inward change to have such life
4. Bring in necessary intensity in our actions to see the necessity
5. The intensity shall be brought in by improving the sensitivity of our system to existence
6. Sensitivity of our system towards existence might be brought in by means of certain methods
7. Choose the right method for the individuals based on individual composition
8. Recognize and understand the trap in each step.
During this discussion we noted that, to have a world of our choice, the first step is bringing in necessary changes within us. Before we change ourselves, as we would like others to be, we can not ask others to change. This implies that we cannot ask the world to change according to our liking unless we change ourselves. If we do so before changing ourselves, we must be mentally imbalanced being. Unfortunately, most of us (At least 90% of human population of this planet) belong to this category. Hence the first step is to bring in necessary changes with in us. To bring in the change with in ourselves, first up all we need to understand the required change. If we do not have the necessary understanding there is not at all any possibility for an inward change.
During this discussion, we tried to understand different qualities with which we attach ourselves. The habit of identifying ourselves with these qualities is the root cause of all our problems and which in turn stimulate us for asking the society to change. This discussion might have indicated about the possibility of a life, which is altogether different from the current life which most of us are living (??). On the other hand, this discussion might have indicated that there is a possibility of life, in which we may be having all the comforts, which we are having now minus the suffering we have and possibly much better way of living.
The key point is that unless we recognize the possibility of such life, which is very much possible for every one of us, we are not going to look into what is that life and hence we are not going to live that life. The type of life, which is unknown for us until now is not meant for only the so-called saints. It is meant for the whole of humanity. Unless we recognize that, we are not going to look into the possibility of living that life ourselves. Unless we look into it, we are not going to get it.
This is because we are entangled with few moments of projected happiness of the life, which we are living and considering as the way of life. We are conditioned so much by our culture, by our religions, by our parents, by our belief systems to such an extent, we fear to look beyond that conditioning. The looking beyond our conditioning is possible only if we realize that our state of conditioning and as a result of that conditioning a whole new way of life is denied to us. The new way of life – all the comforts we are enjoying and much more minus all our current sufferings is possible only if we look beyond our belief systems and question each and every conclusions we have, with out any bias on either direction. These discussions might have been a great step towards recognizing the possibility of such life for ourselves, if we really see deeply into the points being discussed.
We have already discussed few of the human conditions, which bring in duality with in human perception. As long as we are into the domain of duality or as long as we do not understand the space between duality or the continuity between duality, we cannot live a fearless life and hence the other way of life is not possible. The earlier discussions might have indicated that it is actually an easiest task to transcend duality and what we need is a very minor inward change, with that change we can look into existence without any bias. This looking of existence will simply free us from all our psychological bondages. As soon as this happens, our life will transcend to the one we discussed above.
To have such a looking into existence, we need a great deal of intensity. Due to our current life style and current way of education system, we have almost lost our sensitivity to existence. To bring in the necessary intensity of looking the existence, we may have to bring in necessary sensitivity to our system (Physical, psychological, emotional, energy) towards existence. This is the point where we may need to have certain methods. Please note that the methods are just to bring in necessary sensitivity to our system towards existence. The methods cannot do anything more than that. Once the sensitivity is brought into the system, we will be having necessary intensity in all our actions this intensity will lead us to the other way of life, which is all our comforts plus, probably much more much more, minus the sufferings.
When we use the methods, great care must be taken not to get attached with the method. If not, we just stuck at the method and our progress towards the better way of living will stop there. The methods may give a false feeling of satisfaction, which we can any way drive from our current way of living. Due to the falsity of this satisfaction, we will be in a much bigger trap. The key point here is the awareness of existence at all times. If we lose the awareness for a brief period, we may fall in a trap, which will be again same as our current way of life.
In addition to the causes of suffering of our current life, we may discuss the overview of few of the methods given by Indian culture towards improving our sensitivity towards existence. It is to be noted that the method suitable for one person may not be suitable for another person, which is due to the chemical composition of individuals. Hence it is up to the individuals to follow certain method suitable for them to increase the sensitivity of their system.
If we condense the content of this discussion, it may be stated as below.
1. Realize the possibility of a better life for every one of us
2. Bring in necessary inward change to live that life
3. See the necessity of inward change to have such life
4. Bring in necessary intensity in our actions to see the necessity
5. The intensity shall be brought in by improving the sensitivity of our system to existence
6. Sensitivity of our system towards existence might be brought in by means of certain methods
7. Choose the right method for the individuals based on individual composition
8. Recognize and understand the trap in each step.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Violence
For most of us, if we can change the world as we like or if we are capable of ending something in the world, the first thing we would like to change or end is the state of violence in this world. Depend on our state of mind and angle of view we see violence almost everywhere. Whenever we perceive violence, we will go to the peak of anger yet due to our inability to counter that violence we accept it and proceed on our way. If we like to end the violence around us, like any other quality, we need to understand violence. Without understanding violence, there is no possibility to end it.
Our general idea about violence is about physical abuse. Terrorism, war, gang war, killing or physically abusing people for some cause (Whatever be the cause) are generally considered as violence. These activities take place when the idea of a person or group is not accepted by the other person or group, and the first person or group enforce the ideas over second person or group by means of physical abuse. The physical violence takes place when the second group is physically capable of resisting the enforcement of first group. If the second group is physically incapable and psychologically also week, they just accept the idea of first group for their survival or forced to accept the ideology of other group. In this case there is no physical abuse. But the idea of one group is enforced on the other group. Is it not violence? We generally do not consider this as violence as it does not get the attention of larger population and silently accepted.
If we analyze the cause of any sort of violence, whether it is violence at the level of society or at the level of individuals, the starting point is that one side wanted conformity for its ideology from the other side. The other side either refuses this idea and in that case physical violence takes place or accept that idea but suffer psychologically due to the inability to resist that idea, which is against their own ideology.
Based on the above discussion, violence can be defined as want/need of acceptance of one’s ideology by others, whether it happens at physical level or psychological level.
If we do not want somebody to do certain action towards us, first up all we should be restrained ourselves from doing similar action. Otherwise it is foolishness and arrogant to expect others should restrain from such action. If we are in a group and we want the group to maintain silence, first we need to maintain silence. This is understandable to everybody. Similarly, if we want the world to be free from violence, we should make sure that we are not infusing any violence to anybody.
Let us make an honest assessment of ourselves with respect to violence. Are we not subjected to violence multiple times a day by almost everyone we encounter? Are we not subjecting violence to almost everyone we encounter? If we see honestly, we constantly subjected to violence by others and constantly subjecting violence over others. The irony is that all our life we are undergoing this fact and we are now so insensitive to violence, unless it happens in physical level. One aspect of change we need to have within us, to change the world as we like, is to bring back the lost sensitivity to ourselves.
We want our wives/husbands to live as per our idea and enforce our ideas over them. We want our parents/children to live as per our idea and enforce our idea over them. We want our friends to accept our ideas and enforce our ideas over them. We want our subordinates to accept our idea and enforce it over them. We want everyone related to us to accept certain ideas of ours and we try to enforce that idea to them. We are also a husband/wife of somebody. We are also parent/child of somebody. We are also friend of somebody. We are also subordinate of somebody. Hence we are constantly subjected to violence and subjecting violence over others. The intensity of violence depend on the intensity of attachment/possessiveness with the relationship.
Unless we end these phenomena within us, we are not in a position to end the violence in the world. If our reaction to this statement is that this is the way of life, then we have to accept everything, as this is the way of world; and then why should we worried about the violence we are seeing in the world. If we want to end the violence in the world without ending the violence within ourselves is exactly same as wanting the group to maintain silence, but we make noise even as we are part of that group.
Another aspect of violence is violence towards one self. It is the need of forcing oneself to behave certain way or perform certain action for the purpose of conformity towards certain values or belief system or cultural compulsion, or to gain social respectability. Most of us are knowingly or unknowingly indulging into this violence. We do not want to perform certain action, but for the purpose of survival we do that action. It is violence to oneself. There are many such actions in our day-to-day life, which we are forced to perform by ourselves to maintain the social respectability even though we are against performing that action within ourselves. This self-violence is more dangerous than physical violence and psychological violence towards others. The violence towards oneself will destroy or dampen the possibility of evolution of that person.
Unless we attempt to end the violence we are indulging to ourselves, we will not be able to end the violence towards others. Unless we end all our violence within ourselves, there will not be any possibility of ending the violence of humanity. Hence if we want the world to be free from violence, we ourselves must be free from all sort of violence.
Our general idea about violence is about physical abuse. Terrorism, war, gang war, killing or physically abusing people for some cause (Whatever be the cause) are generally considered as violence. These activities take place when the idea of a person or group is not accepted by the other person or group, and the first person or group enforce the ideas over second person or group by means of physical abuse. The physical violence takes place when the second group is physically capable of resisting the enforcement of first group. If the second group is physically incapable and psychologically also week, they just accept the idea of first group for their survival or forced to accept the ideology of other group. In this case there is no physical abuse. But the idea of one group is enforced on the other group. Is it not violence? We generally do not consider this as violence as it does not get the attention of larger population and silently accepted.
If we analyze the cause of any sort of violence, whether it is violence at the level of society or at the level of individuals, the starting point is that one side wanted conformity for its ideology from the other side. The other side either refuses this idea and in that case physical violence takes place or accept that idea but suffer psychologically due to the inability to resist that idea, which is against their own ideology.
Based on the above discussion, violence can be defined as want/need of acceptance of one’s ideology by others, whether it happens at physical level or psychological level.
If we do not want somebody to do certain action towards us, first up all we should be restrained ourselves from doing similar action. Otherwise it is foolishness and arrogant to expect others should restrain from such action. If we are in a group and we want the group to maintain silence, first we need to maintain silence. This is understandable to everybody. Similarly, if we want the world to be free from violence, we should make sure that we are not infusing any violence to anybody.
Let us make an honest assessment of ourselves with respect to violence. Are we not subjected to violence multiple times a day by almost everyone we encounter? Are we not subjecting violence to almost everyone we encounter? If we see honestly, we constantly subjected to violence by others and constantly subjecting violence over others. The irony is that all our life we are undergoing this fact and we are now so insensitive to violence, unless it happens in physical level. One aspect of change we need to have within us, to change the world as we like, is to bring back the lost sensitivity to ourselves.
We want our wives/husbands to live as per our idea and enforce our ideas over them. We want our parents/children to live as per our idea and enforce our idea over them. We want our friends to accept our ideas and enforce our ideas over them. We want our subordinates to accept our idea and enforce it over them. We want everyone related to us to accept certain ideas of ours and we try to enforce that idea to them. We are also a husband/wife of somebody. We are also parent/child of somebody. We are also friend of somebody. We are also subordinate of somebody. Hence we are constantly subjected to violence and subjecting violence over others. The intensity of violence depend on the intensity of attachment/possessiveness with the relationship.
Unless we end these phenomena within us, we are not in a position to end the violence in the world. If our reaction to this statement is that this is the way of life, then we have to accept everything, as this is the way of world; and then why should we worried about the violence we are seeing in the world. If we want to end the violence in the world without ending the violence within ourselves is exactly same as wanting the group to maintain silence, but we make noise even as we are part of that group.
Another aspect of violence is violence towards one self. It is the need of forcing oneself to behave certain way or perform certain action for the purpose of conformity towards certain values or belief system or cultural compulsion, or to gain social respectability. Most of us are knowingly or unknowingly indulging into this violence. We do not want to perform certain action, but for the purpose of survival we do that action. It is violence to oneself. There are many such actions in our day-to-day life, which we are forced to perform by ourselves to maintain the social respectability even though we are against performing that action within ourselves. This self-violence is more dangerous than physical violence and psychological violence towards others. The violence towards oneself will destroy or dampen the possibility of evolution of that person.
Unless we attempt to end the violence we are indulging to ourselves, we will not be able to end the violence towards others. Unless we end all our violence within ourselves, there will not be any possibility of ending the violence of humanity. Hence if we want the world to be free from violence, we ourselves must be free from all sort of violence.
Friday, April 24, 2009
Dependency
In this universe everything, whether animate or inanimate, is depend on many other things for their survival. Hence dependency is a factor which we inherited from our ancestors, which in turn has the history from the time of creation. But dependency at another level, takes away our freedom and becomes the cause of bondage and hence the cause of our suffering. Hence it may be helpful to understand the term Dependency towards our quest of having a world of our choice.
At one level we depend on our parents, our spouse, our children, our neighbors, our society, etc for fulfilling our day-to-day needs. Without such dependency we cannot have a social life. At another level, we depend on the life of many other living organisms for our basic needs like food (irrespective of vegetarian or not), shelter and basic survival. Without the sacrifice of lives of many other living organisms, we cannot even survive for a day. At a much subtler level, even the inanimate objects depend on other objects for their existence. This is true for sub atomic objects to the cosmic objects.
There is another level of dependency which we create ourselves out of ignorance, which then becomes source of our sufferings. This is the psychological dependency, which we create with our relationships, with our possessions and with our desires. Let us analyze the mechanism of psychological dependency and its role in our life. Once we have the understanding we will be able to decide its role and its need in our lives.
For our needs we depend on two set of people, with one set, we are not emotionally related where as with another set we are emotionally related also. The first set is like grocery agent, news paper agent, vehicle mechanic and so on. In this case, they depend on our need of their services and we depend on their services and there is no emotional factor attached with this dependency on either side. Here if one grocery vendor is not servicing us we can get another one. Hence we never look for the security of service with one particular vendor and hence there is no emotional factor, and hence no psychological dependency. Basically, dependency is need based. The above dependencies are physical need based and we cannot avoid those dependencies, and there are no problems for us due to those dependencies.
The other set is our parents, spouse, children, friends, and similar relationships. There are certain levels of real needs from these relationships. We do not stop our dependency with these relationships at real, required level, but elevate it to emotional level. This is due to the fact that we are in need of emotional content from these relationships. On the other hand, we are emotionally void and hence we tend to fill that emotional void by emotional content from our relationships. The general understanding of us is that without that emotional factor towards the relationships, what is social life and why do we need a social set up like family? Yes, we need emotional factor towards our relationships and with the society, but that should be due to our emotional fullness and not due to our emotional emptiness. If the emotional factor of our relationship is not due to emotional emptiness, then there is no need for emotional dependency for us and there is no suffering for us due to our dependency with our relationships. In such case, there is no question of this discussion at all. But the fact is that we are completely void with respect to our emotions. What we call as emotion within us is just the need of us arising out of this emotional emptiness and due to the projection of our mind but we perceive it as the emotional content we are providing to our relationships due to our ignorance.
There is a third level of dependency in which we depend on many of our material possessions. Out of the possessiveness we build around those possessions, we become emotionally dependent on these possessions. Off late we have reached a level in which our emotional dependency towards these possessions are gone beyond a tolerable limit. In case we lose any of those possessions, we will be down psychologically. This is the real problem – the psychological falling which is the result of emotional dependency. Of course, the loss of certain possession is definitely a loss with respect to our ability to do certain function because the execution of that function depends on the possession. But if it reaches a level where the loss of that possession pull us down psychologically, then something wrong in the type of dependency we have with that possession.
If our emotional factor towards our relationships and possessions arises due to our fullness, then there will not be any suffering for us due to that emotional factor. In the sense, irrespective of the reaction of that relationship towards as, our emotional content flows towards that relationship and due to our emotional completeness, we do not need any emotional factor from that relationship; if at all that relationship is unable to give. If we are emotionally empty, how can we approach the relationships with the emotional factor? We can only expect the emotional content from our relationships, while (actually) nothing to give back. When every one of us in the society is emotionally void, how can our relationships approach us with the (actual) emotional content which we need? Cannot be! Hence the real problem is that every one of us is emotionally void and trying to fill that void by depending on others. Unfortunately all our relationships are at the same level and our emotional need will never be fulfilled. The end result is suffering to us and our relationships.
The only way out is to understand this fact. Once we understand the cause of emotional dependency, we will be free from it; simultaneously we will be emotionally complete by ourselves. These are mere psychological factors and basically evolved due to the projection of our mind. It is not a real dependency. That is the reason, as soon as we understand these deficiencies, it will be filled immediately. In other words the emptiness is due to our ignorance of the facts. Once we understand the facts, our ignorance will be wiped out instantaneously and hence we will be free from illusions. This freedom gives us the fullness and it is an instantaneous change. As soon as we understand the fact, the suffering will be ended because it is a mere psychological factor.
The real problem is to bring in the necessary understanding. As we discussed multiple times, our conditioning is the blocking stone on the path of understanding. Unless we are free from the conditioning, which is result of inheritance, we will not be able to wipe out our ignorance and hence illusions. Until the time we live illusionary life, without looking into the facts and logic of existence, we are not going to be free from our conditioning and hence our suffering. Until the time we are free from suffering, we can look nothing, but a problematic world. At this level, naturally we would like to change the world from what it is. We ourselves are not free from suffering, how can we end the suffering of world?
At one level we depend on our parents, our spouse, our children, our neighbors, our society, etc for fulfilling our day-to-day needs. Without such dependency we cannot have a social life. At another level, we depend on the life of many other living organisms for our basic needs like food (irrespective of vegetarian or not), shelter and basic survival. Without the sacrifice of lives of many other living organisms, we cannot even survive for a day. At a much subtler level, even the inanimate objects depend on other objects for their existence. This is true for sub atomic objects to the cosmic objects.
There is another level of dependency which we create ourselves out of ignorance, which then becomes source of our sufferings. This is the psychological dependency, which we create with our relationships, with our possessions and with our desires. Let us analyze the mechanism of psychological dependency and its role in our life. Once we have the understanding we will be able to decide its role and its need in our lives.
For our needs we depend on two set of people, with one set, we are not emotionally related where as with another set we are emotionally related also. The first set is like grocery agent, news paper agent, vehicle mechanic and so on. In this case, they depend on our need of their services and we depend on their services and there is no emotional factor attached with this dependency on either side. Here if one grocery vendor is not servicing us we can get another one. Hence we never look for the security of service with one particular vendor and hence there is no emotional factor, and hence no psychological dependency. Basically, dependency is need based. The above dependencies are physical need based and we cannot avoid those dependencies, and there are no problems for us due to those dependencies.
The other set is our parents, spouse, children, friends, and similar relationships. There are certain levels of real needs from these relationships. We do not stop our dependency with these relationships at real, required level, but elevate it to emotional level. This is due to the fact that we are in need of emotional content from these relationships. On the other hand, we are emotionally void and hence we tend to fill that emotional void by emotional content from our relationships. The general understanding of us is that without that emotional factor towards the relationships, what is social life and why do we need a social set up like family? Yes, we need emotional factor towards our relationships and with the society, but that should be due to our emotional fullness and not due to our emotional emptiness. If the emotional factor of our relationship is not due to emotional emptiness, then there is no need for emotional dependency for us and there is no suffering for us due to our dependency with our relationships. In such case, there is no question of this discussion at all. But the fact is that we are completely void with respect to our emotions. What we call as emotion within us is just the need of us arising out of this emotional emptiness and due to the projection of our mind but we perceive it as the emotional content we are providing to our relationships due to our ignorance.
There is a third level of dependency in which we depend on many of our material possessions. Out of the possessiveness we build around those possessions, we become emotionally dependent on these possessions. Off late we have reached a level in which our emotional dependency towards these possessions are gone beyond a tolerable limit. In case we lose any of those possessions, we will be down psychologically. This is the real problem – the psychological falling which is the result of emotional dependency. Of course, the loss of certain possession is definitely a loss with respect to our ability to do certain function because the execution of that function depends on the possession. But if it reaches a level where the loss of that possession pull us down psychologically, then something wrong in the type of dependency we have with that possession.
If our emotional factor towards our relationships and possessions arises due to our fullness, then there will not be any suffering for us due to that emotional factor. In the sense, irrespective of the reaction of that relationship towards as, our emotional content flows towards that relationship and due to our emotional completeness, we do not need any emotional factor from that relationship; if at all that relationship is unable to give. If we are emotionally empty, how can we approach the relationships with the emotional factor? We can only expect the emotional content from our relationships, while (actually) nothing to give back. When every one of us in the society is emotionally void, how can our relationships approach us with the (actual) emotional content which we need? Cannot be! Hence the real problem is that every one of us is emotionally void and trying to fill that void by depending on others. Unfortunately all our relationships are at the same level and our emotional need will never be fulfilled. The end result is suffering to us and our relationships.
The only way out is to understand this fact. Once we understand the cause of emotional dependency, we will be free from it; simultaneously we will be emotionally complete by ourselves. These are mere psychological factors and basically evolved due to the projection of our mind. It is not a real dependency. That is the reason, as soon as we understand these deficiencies, it will be filled immediately. In other words the emptiness is due to our ignorance of the facts. Once we understand the facts, our ignorance will be wiped out instantaneously and hence we will be free from illusions. This freedom gives us the fullness and it is an instantaneous change. As soon as we understand the fact, the suffering will be ended because it is a mere psychological factor.
The real problem is to bring in the necessary understanding. As we discussed multiple times, our conditioning is the blocking stone on the path of understanding. Unless we are free from the conditioning, which is result of inheritance, we will not be able to wipe out our ignorance and hence illusions. Until the time we live illusionary life, without looking into the facts and logic of existence, we are not going to be free from our conditioning and hence our suffering. Until the time we are free from suffering, we can look nothing, but a problematic world. At this level, naturally we would like to change the world from what it is. We ourselves are not free from suffering, how can we end the suffering of world?
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Responsibility
We are discussing about the change we want to have in the world as we are seeing a complete chaos in the world around us. Based on the discussion so far, every one of us sees a different world. The world I am seeing is entirely different form the world you are seeing. No two persons will see the same world. The reason is that the world we see is the projection of our mind and no two persons think alike and hence the world of no two persons will be alike.
This implies that if we are seeing complete chaos in the world, essentially our mind is in complete chaos. During the discussion so far, we have seen some of the reasons for such a chaotic mind. So far we were discussing about constructed qualities which we need to wipe out from ourselves to get ourselves free. Responsibility is one action which we have to adapt. The action with responsibility will help us to get away with those constructed qualities. Responsibility is stated as action rather than a quality because we never identify ourselves with it. Qualities are some thing with which we are attached and hence identified with. Responsibility is an action out of us.
If we look deep into our day-to-day life, we take responsibility for ourselves of all our successes and with things whichever we are happy with in our life. But if there is some problem in life, we rarely take responsibility for that problem; we rarely recognize the problem is due to some of our actions for which we are responsible. We readily find someone else to pass the responsibility for our problems. We also fail to recognize the quality of life we are living is entirely based on our actions. The actions might have been stimulated by somebody else or something else. But the actions were performed by us with our complete knowledge. Hence we are completely responsible for what we are today, whether we are happy or not happy with our present state. Of course, we are thankful to those stimulating environment- be it our parents, or well wishers or whoever it be.
In most of the cases, we shift the responsibility of our present state to somebody else and if we could not get those somebody else, it is very easy to shift that responsibility to God or Cosmic power; as nobody understand what it really mean and God never questions us for this action, and hence we are not answerable to anybody for shifting the responsibility of our failures and problems towards God. But, by doing this, we lose our freedom. We enter in a state of fear, which will be the breeding point for all our constructed qualities and hence all our problems.
When we take responsibility of our action means, we will be completely aware of our actions. We will be also aware that the result for the action is not only depends on our action, but many external situations also. As we completely take the responsibility of our actions and hence aware of the external conditions, we respond to all these external situations and now we are in a position to accept the outcome of our action, whatever it may be. The key point here is that taking responsibility of our action drastically improves our awareness and once we are aware, the less will be the fear and hence less will be the possibility of creating other constructed qualities out of our action.
When we shift the responsibility of our actions to somebody else, we are choosing the escape route, which in turn make our awareness to shrink. The less our awareness, the more will be chances of getting into fear. Once we have fear there is no escape from suffering.
If we would like to change the world around us, we should be capable of assuming responsibility for all of our action. If we are not able to take responsibility of our actions, yet want to change the world from ‘what it is’ to ‘what should be’, then we are creating more problems for ourselves and for the world. In such case, it is better to live our own life in our own way, instead of worrying about the world, as it has no meaning for those who are not ready to take the responsibility for their own actions!
This implies that if we are seeing complete chaos in the world, essentially our mind is in complete chaos. During the discussion so far, we have seen some of the reasons for such a chaotic mind. So far we were discussing about constructed qualities which we need to wipe out from ourselves to get ourselves free. Responsibility is one action which we have to adapt. The action with responsibility will help us to get away with those constructed qualities. Responsibility is stated as action rather than a quality because we never identify ourselves with it. Qualities are some thing with which we are attached and hence identified with. Responsibility is an action out of us.
If we look deep into our day-to-day life, we take responsibility for ourselves of all our successes and with things whichever we are happy with in our life. But if there is some problem in life, we rarely take responsibility for that problem; we rarely recognize the problem is due to some of our actions for which we are responsible. We readily find someone else to pass the responsibility for our problems. We also fail to recognize the quality of life we are living is entirely based on our actions. The actions might have been stimulated by somebody else or something else. But the actions were performed by us with our complete knowledge. Hence we are completely responsible for what we are today, whether we are happy or not happy with our present state. Of course, we are thankful to those stimulating environment- be it our parents, or well wishers or whoever it be.
In most of the cases, we shift the responsibility of our present state to somebody else and if we could not get those somebody else, it is very easy to shift that responsibility to God or Cosmic power; as nobody understand what it really mean and God never questions us for this action, and hence we are not answerable to anybody for shifting the responsibility of our failures and problems towards God. But, by doing this, we lose our freedom. We enter in a state of fear, which will be the breeding point for all our constructed qualities and hence all our problems.
When we take responsibility of our action means, we will be completely aware of our actions. We will be also aware that the result for the action is not only depends on our action, but many external situations also. As we completely take the responsibility of our actions and hence aware of the external conditions, we respond to all these external situations and now we are in a position to accept the outcome of our action, whatever it may be. The key point here is that taking responsibility of our action drastically improves our awareness and once we are aware, the less will be the fear and hence less will be the possibility of creating other constructed qualities out of our action.
When we shift the responsibility of our actions to somebody else, we are choosing the escape route, which in turn make our awareness to shrink. The less our awareness, the more will be chances of getting into fear. Once we have fear there is no escape from suffering.
If we would like to change the world around us, we should be capable of assuming responsibility for all of our action. If we are not able to take responsibility of our actions, yet want to change the world from ‘what it is’ to ‘what should be’, then we are creating more problems for ourselves and for the world. In such case, it is better to live our own life in our own way, instead of worrying about the world, as it has no meaning for those who are not ready to take the responsibility for their own actions!
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Anger
Anger is one of the constructed qualities, which affect our inner freedom. Until the time we have the quality anger, we can’t have inner freedom. Unlike qualities like attachment and possessiveness which affect us just psychologically, anger affect us psychologically as well as physiologically. When we are in anger (Or just after recognizing anger within us), the blood pressure increases enormously and certain acidic substances are added into our system. Both of these physical effects of anger are harmful to our body.
Let us analyze the source of anger and this knowledge may be helpful, if we wish to avoid anger within us and hence we will be approaching psychological freedom and eliminating unnecessary blood pressure spikes and unnecessary addition of acidic substances in our physiological system. None of us really want these side effects of anger, and hence anger also. However we are unable to control anger when it arises and we are aware of our anger only after it is over. This may be due to our lack of understanding of the mechanism of anger and its source.
Whenever the projection of our mind is challenged, our mind expresses the reaction as anger. The intensity of anger depends on the intensity of challenge. When we are caught in psychological bondage, the mind always project everything it sees, make it as an image and store it back in the memory. Depend on the usage of this image for our survival, the mind seeks security for the projected image, and this will be breeding point of attachment and possessiveness. Hence the intensity of our anger depends on how far we are attached with the image projected by the mind or how far the mind seeks security of that image.
We have built an image about us within our mind, which is basically what we refer as ourselves. This includes images like I am this religion; I am this caste; I am the native of this state; I am this national; I am the follower of this leader; I am the follower of this Guru, and such endless I am…. The more the number of such identifications we have about ourselves, the possibility of bondage is more and hence the frequency and intensity of our anger. The less the identification we have about ourselves, the less will be the frequency and intensity of the anger. This leads to the conclusion that we will be nearing psychological freedom as fast as we eliminate entities with which we are identified. Once there is no more identification about ourselves within us, the “I centeredness” or “Me” or “Self” cease to exist and that will be the ultimate freedom.
To reach such a state, we need not forgo the relationships in this world; need not leave behind any possessions we have; do not cease the enjoyment the existence provides to us and need not isolate ourselves from the society and culture. What we just need is an understanding of existence. And a change within us to live synchronized with the existence. Nothing more is demanded from us to have a realized, joyful life.
Let us go some more details of relation between anger and our self identifications. Let us assume we belong to the religion “A”. This means, we have strong belief about the teaching of religion “A” due to constant and prolonged insistence of the principles and value system of religion “A” within us. We are conditioned such a way that, we started feeling a great sense of fulfillment and pride with the image of being belonging to that religion. This will give a sense of pride when we say I am the follower of religion “A” and we go to such a stage that we identify ourselves as I am an “A”ian. Now we are deeply identified with the religion “A”. Now one person belong to religion “B” and as deeply attached with that religion as we are attached with “A” comes to us and question the validity of certain principles of religion “A”, we do not need any time to reach the peak of anger. The less our identification with religion “A” the more we see the validity/invalidity of the challenge and have the capability of logical reaction. If we are not at all identified ourselves with religion “A”, any question about the validity of religion “A” is not at all a challenge to us, and there is no need for us to react for that challenge, except showing logical reaction, if we wish to do so. When we do not identify ourselves with any of the religions from A to Z, none can make us anger by challenging with respect to religion. This does not mean that we should not follow any religion or belief system. We can follow any religion or any belief system of our choice. But we should also take the choice of not being identified with the religion or belief system. It may be a bit difficult to digest this argument. But if we allow our intelligence to work, it is not a difficult task to follow something, but not identified with that something. Such intelligence will provide us ultimate freedom from all bondages. Once we are free from the bondages, we will be peaceful within us and the world projected by our mind is also in peace!
One more point we need to note about anger is that we never were aware of anger, when we are caught in anger. We realize that we were angry only after the real anger is gone. We normally refer the reaction of anger as anger. This is one of the prime reasons, due to which we are unable to get freedom from anger. If we go little deep into the quality of anger, at the time of anger, there is no identification about ourselves. We lose ourselves completely, which is desirable and we are striving to reach such a self-less state. But due to undesirable nature of cause of anger, the after effects of anger are undesirable. When our images are challenged, based on the intensity of challenge, we entered the state of anger with proportional intensity. Within moments, we get into self identification and the undesirable effects of anger will start to manifest. With the self identification with images and with the challenge, we enter into a state of desperation and we normally call this state as anger, because we are aware of only this state and not the real anger.
We will be able to recognize this fact if we analyze the instant of latest anger, its cause, reaction, effects and the state of mind during the whole of this process.
The important point here is that if we are capable of observing the real moment of anger, we will understand the cause of this anger, which is the self identification with images, and will be able to eliminate it completely. To observe the moment of anger, we have to allow our intelligence to work. For the intelligence to work, we need to bring necessary changes within ourselves so that we are free of the conditioning of ourselves, at least to the extent of neither accepting nor rejecting any of our value systems and have the openness to see the things as it comes without accepting or rejecting whatever comes to us.
Let us analyze the source of anger and this knowledge may be helpful, if we wish to avoid anger within us and hence we will be approaching psychological freedom and eliminating unnecessary blood pressure spikes and unnecessary addition of acidic substances in our physiological system. None of us really want these side effects of anger, and hence anger also. However we are unable to control anger when it arises and we are aware of our anger only after it is over. This may be due to our lack of understanding of the mechanism of anger and its source.
Whenever the projection of our mind is challenged, our mind expresses the reaction as anger. The intensity of anger depends on the intensity of challenge. When we are caught in psychological bondage, the mind always project everything it sees, make it as an image and store it back in the memory. Depend on the usage of this image for our survival, the mind seeks security for the projected image, and this will be breeding point of attachment and possessiveness. Hence the intensity of our anger depends on how far we are attached with the image projected by the mind or how far the mind seeks security of that image.
We have built an image about us within our mind, which is basically what we refer as ourselves. This includes images like I am this religion; I am this caste; I am the native of this state; I am this national; I am the follower of this leader; I am the follower of this Guru, and such endless I am…. The more the number of such identifications we have about ourselves, the possibility of bondage is more and hence the frequency and intensity of our anger. The less the identification we have about ourselves, the less will be the frequency and intensity of the anger. This leads to the conclusion that we will be nearing psychological freedom as fast as we eliminate entities with which we are identified. Once there is no more identification about ourselves within us, the “I centeredness” or “Me” or “Self” cease to exist and that will be the ultimate freedom.
To reach such a state, we need not forgo the relationships in this world; need not leave behind any possessions we have; do not cease the enjoyment the existence provides to us and need not isolate ourselves from the society and culture. What we just need is an understanding of existence. And a change within us to live synchronized with the existence. Nothing more is demanded from us to have a realized, joyful life.
Let us go some more details of relation between anger and our self identifications. Let us assume we belong to the religion “A”. This means, we have strong belief about the teaching of religion “A” due to constant and prolonged insistence of the principles and value system of religion “A” within us. We are conditioned such a way that, we started feeling a great sense of fulfillment and pride with the image of being belonging to that religion. This will give a sense of pride when we say I am the follower of religion “A” and we go to such a stage that we identify ourselves as I am an “A”ian. Now we are deeply identified with the religion “A”. Now one person belong to religion “B” and as deeply attached with that religion as we are attached with “A” comes to us and question the validity of certain principles of religion “A”, we do not need any time to reach the peak of anger. The less our identification with religion “A” the more we see the validity/invalidity of the challenge and have the capability of logical reaction. If we are not at all identified ourselves with religion “A”, any question about the validity of religion “A” is not at all a challenge to us, and there is no need for us to react for that challenge, except showing logical reaction, if we wish to do so. When we do not identify ourselves with any of the religions from A to Z, none can make us anger by challenging with respect to religion. This does not mean that we should not follow any religion or belief system. We can follow any religion or any belief system of our choice. But we should also take the choice of not being identified with the religion or belief system. It may be a bit difficult to digest this argument. But if we allow our intelligence to work, it is not a difficult task to follow something, but not identified with that something. Such intelligence will provide us ultimate freedom from all bondages. Once we are free from the bondages, we will be peaceful within us and the world projected by our mind is also in peace!
One more point we need to note about anger is that we never were aware of anger, when we are caught in anger. We realize that we were angry only after the real anger is gone. We normally refer the reaction of anger as anger. This is one of the prime reasons, due to which we are unable to get freedom from anger. If we go little deep into the quality of anger, at the time of anger, there is no identification about ourselves. We lose ourselves completely, which is desirable and we are striving to reach such a self-less state. But due to undesirable nature of cause of anger, the after effects of anger are undesirable. When our images are challenged, based on the intensity of challenge, we entered the state of anger with proportional intensity. Within moments, we get into self identification and the undesirable effects of anger will start to manifest. With the self identification with images and with the challenge, we enter into a state of desperation and we normally call this state as anger, because we are aware of only this state and not the real anger.
We will be able to recognize this fact if we analyze the instant of latest anger, its cause, reaction, effects and the state of mind during the whole of this process.
The important point here is that if we are capable of observing the real moment of anger, we will understand the cause of this anger, which is the self identification with images, and will be able to eliminate it completely. To observe the moment of anger, we have to allow our intelligence to work. For the intelligence to work, we need to bring necessary changes within ourselves so that we are free of the conditioning of ourselves, at least to the extent of neither accepting nor rejecting any of our value systems and have the openness to see the things as it comes without accepting or rejecting whatever comes to us.
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