Choice

The way we are living our life today is entirely based on the choices we have taken from our childhood to until now. It is a big question that whether we are aware of those choices or not. But it is the fact. Some body else might have forced us towards choosing a particular choice, but ultimately the choices were that of ours. The majority of us never agree that we are living a comfortable life, where ever we are positioned and whatever lifestyle we are living now. We have so many reasons for supporting this claim. And we also call the support of destiny to give a psychological relief from our problem. Once we called the support of destiny for our problems, we turn spiritual (??) and claim that it is destiny, which is driving us and that is the way our lives are now.

We conveniently put the blame on destiny and forget, in times not even aware of, the choices we have taken, which took us to the position where we are now. And this is a convenient method of shifting our responsibility to some body/thing else, who can not retaliate on us. For the purpose of understanding these problems, we may have to ask few questions to ourselves and try to answer genuinely to ourselves. This part of analysis is just to make us to realize that if there is some thing called destiny, to drive us or not, it is we who are responsible for what we are today. Whether we are successful, joyful, and hopeful or whether we are bunch of failures and worries or what ever may be, it is entirely because of us. Once we are capable of understanding and are aware of this fact, we can notice a drastic change in our attitude and the way we face the outside world with an entirely different perspective of life.

Most of us give the credit to our successes to ourselves only. We give only the credit of our failures to destiny or God. Hence it is more relevant to analyze the facts related to failures than success; any way for success we have already taken the responsibility. It is not that once we take the responsibility of failures, there will not be any more failures. As long as we are with in the duality of success and failure, there will be always success and failure. The number of success and failures in our life depends on where we have kept the reference point, which divides between success and failures. But by taking the responsibility, we will undergo a complete change in attitude and we start looking the outside in a different way. With this change happening with in ourselves as a result of taking responsibility of our actions and choices, keeps us in a joyful state irrespective of the success or failure. Any way what we want is a joyful life and hence taking the responsibility of all our actions shall be a logical right step.

Again, we need to take our choices, whether we like it or not, as long as we are in the domain of duality. If we start taking the choices consciously, slowly we shall start shifting the reference point between the dual aspects towards one direction. As our consciousness on this increase, there is a possibility of transcending over the domain of duality. Once we transcend over the duality, there is no more need for choosing choices. Here after we need to just act depend on what is needed. As we are transcended over the duality, we act only for what is needed and there is no choice to choose for. There may be multiple methods to transcend over duality. What we are discussing now is a method of transcending duality with the use of our knowledge. And this is about knowledge on just one aspect, where us there may be countless such aspects and when we gain knowledge on such aspects, slowly we shall transcend over duality. What we need is just a conscious effort. Nothing more than that!

Now we can claim that we are already in the domain of choice less action, as we are acting as and when needed. Here it is not that the actions are choice less. Here we are just not aware of our choices. As long as we are not conceptualize duality – duality of happy and sad, success and failure, and any such thing we name it, there is not much difference (in perception) between the choice less actions what we are doing now(claiming as doing) and the choice less action as a result of transcending the duality. Once the concept of duality is clear with in us, we will be able to appreciate the vast difference between these two way of action. Yes, some effort is required to understand the concept of duality. Once it is understood, we start taking conscious choices. We have discussed little bit about the concept of duality in the last section.
Responsibility is the key for taking conscious choices. We may discuss on another day about responsibility.